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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 52
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Palm Springs
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Resident Nurse
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2

Met In A Chat Room

How long ago did this hookup happen? 12 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Joanne was a larger Hispanic lady. I was 40 and she was 23. I was in a chat room and she sent me an instant message asking about who I was where I lived. At first I thought she was just a troll. It was during the summer and I had mentioned that I was going for a swim to cool off and it turned out that Joanne lived close by. I invited her over. She showed up at my door about half an hour later. She asked where she could change into her suit. I told her that I usually went skinny dipping because I liked the feel. She surprised me and said ok.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end?
She came outside with a towel around her as did I. She told me to get in first and not to turn around until she said to. When she said I could turn around she was chin deep in the water by the side.
I swam around some, talking to her and trying to see what I could see of her through the water. I kept getting closer and finally stopped right in front of her. I placed one hand on each side of her head holding on to the side of the pool. We talked until I was close enough to lean in and kiss her. She stuck her tongue in my mouth and we were off. I let my body float down until my chest was against her firm breasts. A little more and my hard cock slipped between her legs and pressed against her pussy lips. She broke the kiss and her breasts came out of the water. I began sucking on her nipple as I rotated my hips to get a better shot at her pussy with my cock. I felt the opening and pushed in. We stayed that way for a while as I sucked on her breasts. She stopped me and said that we should go inside. We went to my bedroom and she laid on her back. I dove between her legs and have her a tongue lashing over her pussy and clit until she came. Then, I fucked her doggy style and played with her tits as I drove in and out of her. Eventually, she pulled off of me and began to suck my cock. Then, she rode me until we both came again. We rested some and she said she had to go. The next day she called me and asked me to come to her house. I went over and she gave me a fantastic blow job for nearly a half hour. She would get me close and then back off. Finally, she took me by the hand and led me to her bedroom where we fucked like animals for several hours. I stayed the night and we fucked several more times. We saw each other for nearly three months almost every day until I ran into another fwb and then we only saw each other 3 or 4 times a week. Finally, she told me she found a boyfriend. We fucked that day then never saw her again. We played together for about a year.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great the next day. I wish I could hook up with her again, the sex was really good.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Her brother. He was ok with it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Good regular sex

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? None

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I ended up having 5 different fwb during this time. Rarely had a day without having sex.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Good

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