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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 32
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Promiscuous
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Mexico Tinder Hookup

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met on Tinder, in a smallish city in Mexico that I was traveling through. She was a local, mestiza I guess, though she had a native-sounding name. She had very curly black hair and was about 5’8″, with a pretty chubby body, but not to the point of it obscuring her womanly curves. She was a couple years younger than me but looked a little bit older. I liked her because she had a good sense of humor and was clearly looking for the same thing as me.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was traveling in Mexico, and I was spending just a few days in the small city where this happened. For some reason, I got like twelve Tinder matches there (not normal for me), so I figured what the hell, why waste my time or theirs? After a minimum of small talk to show I was a normal person, I told each one, “The truth is, I’m leaving in a couple days and I’m looking for some physical interaction.” Several ghosted, several politely declined or were too busy, one sounded interested but flaked, and one came through.

This girl and I hit it off right away, with her joking that she did need an American for her list. We made a plan to meet up the next night. I took a bus to her part of town, we greeted each other briefly, then we took a taxi together to this super-discreet hookup motel where you never even see a person’s face. We split the cost.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we entered the hotel room, we chatted awkwardly for just a minute, then I went to the bathroom and when I came out, she came over and just started making out with me. Our clothes quickly came off, and we ended up on the bed with me running my hands all over her body and fingering her. When she felt really good, she would tilt her head back and shut her eyes while moaning, and that was what really turned me on.

I had a little trouble staying hard, as I often do, but we had sex briefly a few times in different positions, and it seemed like she enjoyed it. In between, she would blow me and I would finger her.

I got hard one last time, and she got on top of me. It wasn’t working very well, so I turned her over and asked her to get on her hands and knees. I entered her from behind and fucked her doggy style. Her ass was bouncy in just the right way, and I kept thrusting fast until I came in the condom inside her. It was really hot.

She told me she had had several orgasms too (it was hard for me to tell with her), and I laid down next to her and fingered her until she came really hard one more time – I could feel her vagina contracting on my fingers.

After that, it wrapped up pretty quick. We got dressed, checked out, took a taxi back to the bus stop, told each other how much fun we’d both had, and said goodbye.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We messaged each other the next day, confirming that we’d both had fun, but haven’t talked since. I’d probably get back in touch if I’m ever in that city again, but no plans for the immediate future.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more confident

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My wife. She was happy for me and turned on when I told her the story. I also sort of mentioned it to the other friend we were traveling with, but he didn’t say much.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Her wanting the same thing as me and just going for it. Best physical parts were coming in her doggy style and listening to her moans while I fingered her.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I wasn’t able to get or stay hard as easily as I wanted

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really, though it did encourage as far as using Tinder while traveling.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex needs to be accepted and respected in society. There’s no rational reason to be opposed to it (even the health and pregnancy risks are no larger than other risks people take for granted).

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s good. I like to be able to read people’s real stories.

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