What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 59
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Public Relations
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

MFM in Germany

How long ago did this hookup happen? 30 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Myself, American friend, and a German woman. He was a nice looking dude, she was a blond, slim woman in her early 40’s, and divorced. Angelic face. My friend and I were 25. We were both working in Frankfurt for the same American company and had known him for about 2 months. We didn’t previously know the woman; we met her in a pub.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My friend and I went into a pub for an afternoon beer, where we sat at the bar. The woman was the bartender and we all starting talking. Her English was excellent and since the pub was virtually empty, she was able to spend a lot of time with us. Little by little we learned her story.

She was divorced and had a daughter who, at the time, was living with the father in Mainz. As we spoke it was clear she was getting into my friend and I. But being 25 and about 15 years younger than the woman, we didn’t get the cues right away. It was just a nice conversation.

When she got off work at 4, she invited us to her apartment for another beer. Again, think nothing of it, we agreed and joined her at her place. My friend and I sat on the couch and before she served us anything, she sat between us and started talking about how long it had been since she had sex. She then turned to me and I kissed her. Then to my friend and he did the same. She then took us by the hand into her bedroom and said “let’s have some fun.”

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was a little strange for me as I’m an avid heterosexual and seeing my friend nude was a bit surprising as I’m sure he would have said the same thing. The woman, though, seemed to have done this before and striped down to her panties, laid on the bed and invited us to join her. (I remember feeling like a virgin as I wasn’t quite sure what to do.)

My friend an I agreed that we would divide her at her belly button with me servicing her breasts and lips and he taking care of her pussy. Although it is kind of hazy now, I remember getting real turned on when, while kissing her, she started to moan with pleasure. I took a look down where my friend was and, after removing her panties, slipped his tongue into her pussy. And although I enjoyed kissing and sucking her breasts, what really turned me on was her reaction to my friend’s actions. When my friend stuck one finger in her anus, one in her vagina while licking her clit, she just about exploded with her orgasm.

After that my friend started to fuck her while I squeezed her breasts. After he came, I took “sloppy seconds.” I must have come within 30 seconds.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? This was one of those experiences that, although I wasn’t in a rush to repeat, I will remember the rest of my life. I’m so glad I got to expedience it.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Other guy friends. They couldn’t believe it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The erotic nature.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. Much more willing to experiment.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Nope.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Just more accepting of it.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Cool project!

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