What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 48
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Sydney
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Administration
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Bicurious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Average looking guy. Met him at the nude beach and got chatting (with husband also). I could tell he was interested in my – he kept looking at my body and complimented me on looking good.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Eventually we said we were going and he said he was going also, so we walked to the car park together. As we were walking he asked us “do you guys swing”? I had recently had a couple of hookups with men, organised by hubby as watching me have sex with other men (or women) turns him on, so we said yes. As we approached his van he asked me if I would like to hop in the back seat with him. I was feeling quite free and easy at the time so went ahead and hubby hopped in the front seat and turned around to watch.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He pulled my sundress off over my head and kissed and sucked on my breasts, then he went down on me and I got more and more turned on, so by the time he was hard and ready I was certainly ready for it. He and hubby talked to each other, agreeing how good I tasted, and then how good it felt to fuck me. Hubby took photos on his phone. After he came he went back to giving me oral and fingering me. Another guy passed by the van and saw what was happening and I saw an amazed look on his face – then he was brave enough to ask if he could join in. I spontaneously said “sure” as I was feeling really horny now, so he opened up the door and asked the guy if he could have a turn. Then he went down on me and used his fingers to massage my clit – he did it differently to the first guy – better, and I was hoping he would fuck me also but hubby noticed another couple in the carpark who obviously knew what was happening and didn’t look too happy about it. As we were in a public carpark we decided to call it quits, but hubby grabbed both their phone numbers to possibly arrange future hookups.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Hubby told me later he had been surprised and delighted when I’d said ok to the second guy joining in. He still gets hard remembering the whole event. Have had an arranged a hookup with the second guy since.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, To feel more confident, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient, Knew it would turn hubby on
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Talk with hubby about it and he wishes a similar thing would happen again.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Spontaneous, hot
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Having to stop sooner than I wanted to
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I became more open to casual encounters
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think everyone should have casual sex, unless their partner only wants a monogamous relationship.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Encourages free sex and removes stigma
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