by Blue Cherry
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 38
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Designer
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 18
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Midnight in Paris
How long ago did this hookup happen? five years
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Partners were a new couple, slightly older, smart, interested in exploring their sexuality together. Both had come out of long term relationships and wanted to engage in new things. We met at a French bistro, all of us had lived in Paris for an extended period.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? They posted an advertisement. There was minimal planning, checking off of certain boxes (STI history, compatibility, getting to know you). I get occasional hall passes, as my partner has no desire.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started on their balcony, watching the sunset and an exhibitionist neighbor (location was in the heart of the city), going at it. Ironic, considering what we had planned.
At first, it was mostly foreplay. Lots of kissing, touching, caressing, exploring each other with our hands and mouths. From there, it evolved into variations on MFM for the course of a few hours. Sometimes one of the males would bow out and watch. It felt phenomenal during, there was such a high and the creativity and our similar interests, experiences made it more enjoyable. They were terrific partners. It ended with a long kiss, late at night.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Was on a high for several days. Expectations were that we could set up regularly, my primary partner was open to it. We met a few times, but the couple ended up moving and while we kept in touch, never got another opportunity.
I remember them fondly, they opened up new experiences for me and I them.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more confident
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my primary partner. She’s interested in hearing what happened but that’s the extent.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Exploration, the ability to engage in something my partner has no interest in.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, I still believe casual sex is natural, and can be appropriate for those in relationships.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I loathe how prudish American society is.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? rocks.
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