What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Creative
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? +10 -20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2
Midsummer Fuck with Bisexual Swede
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was tall and thin and feminine. He had kind of a hipster bowl cut and wore round glasses. I met him that night and was already a bit drunk when we were introduced. Thinking back, I can’t remember for sure his connection to my friend group, but I think they were guys visiting a friend of a friend from Sweden. Once he mentioned he was leaving the next day, I knew I wanted to hook up with him. He was handsome and beautiful in a peculiar way. I had a feeling he was queer from the beginning.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It started outside the bar. I guess I went out to smoke a cigarette and asked him to join. Soon we were making out. It was nearly 3am so I asked him to come over- he said he had to get condoms but that he would. I gave him my address and we added each other on Facebook to communicate, agreeing to meet within the next hour. I wasn’t sure he would actually show up, but sure enough my doorbell rang.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The first thing I noticed when he started to undress was that he was wearing cheetah print briefs a la American Apparel. I didn’t know what to think, but I liked that he was comfortable with himself. At that moment I also realized this was not going to be what I expected. Neither of us went down on each other. He fingered me a bit while we made out. His penis was unremarkable. Within 15 minutes we were fucking with him whispering in his sweet accent what I wanted. I guess I said I want it rough but it was too rough, and when I asked him to slow down he seemed disappointed. I wanted to be fucked from behind but he wanted me on top. I obliged even though I was becoming increasingly not into it and pretended to cum. He came shortly after and when he pulled out, we found that the condom had snapped and he came directly inside me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I immediately ran to the bathroom and tried to push the cum out and washed my vagina. He was really apologetic though it was no-one’s fault really. Strangely, he made me feel comfortable, offering to buy me the morning after pill before he went home to pack for his flight. I waved it off and said I could get it myself. After things had settled down a bit we cuddled and talked. I brought out a film camera and we photographed each other. I felt a bit sad that we rushed things as I thought he was a nice guy. A few days after the hookup he messaged me on Facebook and thanked me for the nice time and said he hoped to reconnect if he was every in NYC again. I thought that to be really kind. We’re still friends on Facebook to this day.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Plan B / Emergency contraception
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Intoxication
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I felt a particular shame after this hookup because the friend group I had connected with him through was kind of new and they were getting to know me during a slutty phase in my life. I didn’t want them to think I was just using them to meet guys so I kept it secret. Everyone knew I took him home, but they didn’t ask questions and I didn’t broadcast the experience.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The guy was nice and we were able to communicate.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The condom broke and I had to buy Plan B.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It reminded me that I needed to get tested because until that point, I hadn’t had sex without a condom.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
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