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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 57
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? US Greenville NH
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Retired
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50-60
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Military Police School
How long ago did this hookup happen? 37 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I will call her Hickey and she was in very good shape (we used to work out alot in MP School including 5 mile runs once a week and 3 mile runs everyday). We met in MP School at Ft. McClellan Alabama. We were casual friends, she used to “hang” with the group of men that I associated with during MP School. I liked her okay but never was lusting after her until the first time I saw her in “regular” clothes (not in uniform). She was gorgeous! I asked her out for the next weekend we had liberty and we went out.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We went out that weekend to Anniston Alabama. We were just going for drinks and dinner. But I had plans of staying in a hotel for the weekend by myself. So after dinner we went to the movies because we were having such a good time (we only had one beer apiece so we were not inebriated). But when I went to put her in a taxi to go back to the base she asked me if I wanted her to stay with me at the hotel for the weekend. Abso-Frookin-Lootly!
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went to the hotel that I had made the reservation at and I let her go ahead of me into the room. I stopped in the lobby to get some protection. When I got to the room she was naked and in bed, but I was kind of nervous (I had not had sex in over a year since my divorce) so I took a shower before coming to bed. When I got out of the shower I came into the room naked with a towel around me (as I said I was in really good shape then). She then threw back the blankets and told me to hurry up. So I just turned on the TV to the music channel, and joined her in bed. We had great sex (almost porn sex) several times in several different positions but she seemed to like the missionary the best and had several orgasms in that position and when I gave her oral sex. She was not that comfortable (or good) at fellatio. After having sex for half the night we finally went to sleep about 3am and just before I fell asleep I noticed we had not used protection. I asked her about it and she said she was taking contraceptives. We woke up the next morning and had sex again and then we went to get dressed, at that time I noticed that I had blood on my penis, and asked her if she realized that she was on her period, she laughed and said she had not. After breakfast we got back to the hotel she was very aggressive and initiated a session that lasted over 3 hours! After that she took a nap and I took another shower and watched TV for awhile. She got up around 1pm and we both went to lunch after she had taken a shower….. When we got back to the room we just cuddled in bed for a few hours (clothed) and watched TV. After a while I initiated sex by asking her if she had ever been raped and she said no but had always fantasized about it so I started pulling her clothes off and growling but it all got mixed up because we were both laughing so hard. We “played” for about an hour giving each other Oral (she was getting to like it more and seemed to be having a great time). We then went to dinner came back to the room and just attacked each other it was the most wild sex I have ever had!..We fell asleep early that night and slept through till 10am. We then got dressed and checked out of the room and went back to base Sunday. Although we shared alot of stories about each other (to include my brief stint as a husband and the resulting breakup), we didn’t create a real “love” or pre-love connection we just seemed to be very good friends…..
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We were very good friends but we both agreed that it was not something that we would want to repeat because we had become such good friends and didn’t want to screw that up. Also she told me on the cab ride back to base that she had been a virgin and wanted to have sex the first time with someone that she liked but did not want to be in “love” with.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Thought it was an important experience to have, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one……
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We became very close friends and when she announced she was getting married her fiance asked me to be his best man!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I wish I had known she was a virgin. I might have done a few things differently?
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No……..
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It happened about a week before I met my wife of the next 36+ years and it helped me realize that I might not be the biggest shit ever (as my ex used to call me) and maybe I was worthy enough to have love in my life…..
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is wonderful as long as it is not alcohol fueled.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Positively
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