What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15ish?
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2

Once Is A Mistake, Twice Is A Bad Decision

How long ago did this hookup happen? Yesterday

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s very charming. You can tell from the way he stands, or his foreardnees, or anything from his laughter to his way of making you feel like yours is the only conversation worth having. He can charm the pants off of a girl. In fact, that’s exactly what happened.

I happen to be utterly entranced by people that are witty. Now of course, everyone likes a witty partner, but with me, it’s almost a handicap. If someone is witty, literally all they need to do is ask, and I’d make out with them. He’s very, very witty, and he caters to my love for theatrics.

Also, he’s cute. He’s the kind of person that can make you happy by just being there, and paying attention to you. I’d made out with him at a party before, and then slept with him one other time before this. That day, I’d found out that he has a girlfriend (or whatever, some complication with some girl, but definitely something romantic). I swore I wouldn’t do it again, but…

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After hooking up a few weeks ago, I was left entirely shaken and satisfied. Since then, I’ve had some very exhausting traveling to do, and so I’ve been busy. No time to think about the charming boy with the good sex and the girlfriend.

When I got back, he texted me, asking if I had, indeed, returned. That conversation quickly devolved into “there’s a party, come drink with us” and I was sorely tempted to go. My very concerned friends put a blanket ban on me going to see him because they know the drama he’ll bring.

After some back-and-forth, we both agreed that I wouldn’t go to the party, but he’d come over the next day for alcohol (and sex). Let’s admit real quick, we both know that what we were doing was absolutely wrong and we had no business making those plans.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He came over and after some initial awkwardness, we drank a little and flirted a lot. Cut to the part where my drunk self went to sit on his lap because he was in my chair.

He told me that he didn’t like my jeans, and that I should take them off. I told him that I wasn’t wearing any underwear, and that made it all the better. I quickly took off my jeans and went back to sitting in his lap. He was pushing and touching me just right, so I turned around and started making out with him. Before I knew it, he had a condom out. I led him to my bed and we had sex then, neither of us trying anything. We just really wanted to get off, so it was straightforward: missionary and then from behind.

He said he had to leave, that I should put my clothes on. I refused to be done with just one, so I pouted and touched him until he chose to stay. We went again, and for longer this time. I can still feel it, it was that good. We both came, and then he had to leave.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was all good until I texted him later in the day and he replied with something that didn’t make sense. When I asked, he said I should go along with it because he was with his girlfriend. That really brought things into perspective and reminded me that the girlfriend is a real person and I’m tucking with someone else’s relationship. I mean the sex is great, but I don’t want to be the other woman.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody. I was warned about this, and I disregarded that warning. This is entirely my fault.

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? He has a girlfriend, and I’m not about to do this again

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex was amazing. Probably the best I’ve ever had. I came from just penetrative sex.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The girlfriend, I suppose.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not at all – I’ve always known what it means to me. Perhaps I’ve learnt to pick my partners more carefully

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? The direct cause of this hookup, I think, was his cleverness. He can mouth off super quickly, and that turns me on. Bad decisions never felt so good. Forbidden fruit and all

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a great initiative but I think it’s fundamentally flawed.

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