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What’s your gender? Genderqueer / Nonbinary
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York, NY
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Communications Coordinator
What’s your current relationship status? My boyfriend recently broke up with me and now he wants to get back together but I am hesitant
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Sapiosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 52
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

I Had an MMF Threesome (and it was AWESOME!!)

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was casually dating a Lebanese-American guy (we’ll call him “P”) nine years my senior back in the summer of 2013. He was fairly good looking, about 5’9” (a little on the short side for my taste) but tan and well-kept. I met him originally when I was in elementary school and thought he was really cute (his mom was my gifted & talented teacher). We re-met because he started teaching at the same high school as my mom while I was in college and she introduced the two of us at a casino (little did she know…). SO he was my main partner at the time, and his friend S was in town one night – blonde and thin, about 6’0 with glasses. I felt neutral about S prior to and sort of liked P prior to but was mainly using him for sex during a very dry summer in my hometown.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? P and I were hanging out on a weekend as usual and he mentioned that his friend was in town (S) so he came over to where we were all hanging out at P’s lawyer friend’s house. After several beers, we decided to hit up the local bar. We drank a bit more but then decided to go “ride the backroads,” as one is wont to do in rural Louisiana. We drove and drank (I do NOT condone this, for the record) for a few hours and everyone was pretty nice and tipsy by this point so we pulled back up to the lawyer friend’s house, where we decided to spend the night. Paul started acting really weird and saying stuff like “You should see L’s boobs man, they are so nice” (I’m L, they are pretty nice). It’s been three years since but I’m pretty sure P started encouraging S and I to make out (by this point I saw where things were going and was ALL IN ’cause I had always wanted to have an MMF threesome). We ended up in the bedroom and there was very little hesitation on any of our parts – soon we were all naked.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The hookup is a blur by now but we were mostly in the Eiffel Tower position for the whole time. Both guys had their dicks in each of my holes at some point or another. P came first and I swallowed it while S was fucking me from behind. P was then done and it was back to one man (YAWN) and S and I fucked in various positions until he also came in my mouth and boobs. It was extremely hot ’cause I love cock and cum so it was double the fun. I was really turned on throughout ’cause I felt like such a nasty little slut (I mostly watch gang bang porn and envy the girls). 10/10 would recommend

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day I felt extremely nauseous about the hookup because during the day I received a ton of random text messages containing an image I could not see (I had a go phone at the time) – this led to a state of intense paranoia where I thought for sure one of them had taken a photo while I wasn’t looking and sent it to the whole town. I did not want to be caught for such a “heinous crime” as the church would have you believe. In my paranoia I revealed to my sister what happened last night and she calmed me down like she always does. She wasn’t surprised in the slightest ’cause I’ve always been the wild child in the family, at least when it comes to sex. I resent the questions about the “future” or my feelings towards the person – sometimes (USUALLY) sex is just sex and I just use others for sex with no intimacy whatsoever. I guess afterwards I thought P was probably bisexual (actually, p sure) because he would do funny little things like stare at himself in the mirror while we fucked, and liked anal pleasure, and initiated an MMF threesome because who does that otherwise? No hate obvs I’m bi myself but hope he comes to terms with his sexuality

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my little sister who was slightly disapproving but not surprised. I told a few close friends who thought I was badass and jealous that it happened so organically (’cause I hang out with equally liberated people). I made the mistake of telling one boyfriend about my MMF threesome and he told me never to tell anyone else because no man who heard that would ever marry me (meanwhile he LOVED to hear about the FFM threesome which seems hypocritical but idk). I’ve kept it from my serious boyfriends since then.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Getting to experience two cocks in me at once (every little girl’s dream)

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The paranoia that someone would find out

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I realized I am more of a sexual deviant than I previously thought and also that two dicks are better than one.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Once you have two dicks in you at once, one will never be enough… I have since longed for that pleasure again and have resorted to the conclusion that it might be a once-in-a-lifetime thing ’cause most men are grossed out to be around other penises (beats me why)

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish that our society wasn’t so repressed and I didn’t have to keep this HUGE side of myself a secret. I think about sex constantly and want it all the time and yet I have to pretend to be this sweet little innocent thing. Casual sex is completely natural and honestly monogamy and waiting til marriage is unnatural. I have grown so much as a person by finding out what I like in bed has helped me find out what I am like in other aspects. One of my friends explained it really brilliantly I think: “People who cheat in marriages do so because they didn’t get enough sex when they were free to have it. I’d rather marry a slut ’cause you know she won’t cheat, she’s seen and done it all” (paraphrased, taken from conversation). I wanna be that slut. I would never cheat.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it, and I’m totally gonna get more involved in the community. Just found out about it via NPR article.

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