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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? South Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Bangladesh
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Engineer and musician
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Romantically only attracted to women but attracted to men as well sexually
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

MMF Threesome with Girlfriend and Gay Couchsurfer

How long ago did this hookup happen? Few months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My girlfriend and I (S) are both South Asian Bangladeshi. We both have brown skin although S has darker skin than me. S is beautiful, slim and sexy. G is an Italian gay and nudist guy who was traveling to Bangladesh at the time. We contacted through CouchSurfing and I offered to host him with us. At that time I was really curious about meeting a gay guy as the country I live in is really conservative and gay people are not allowed to come out. So it’s fair to say I had never met a guy who admitted to being openly gay before.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? G was an amazing guy and both of us got on really well with him. After G came to know that I was partly bisexual as well and felt sexually attracted to other men but I never had the chance to explore it myself, he offered that I could try it with him if I wanted. My girlfriend and I had already talked about the idea before. So I immediately agreed but told him that my girlfriend would be there as well as a spectator. Although it was a new experience for G as well, he agreed to it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end?

When we all entered the room, we locked the door and decided that all three of us would first take off their clothes to feel comfortable around each other. G had a huge dick compared to normal South Asian guys. It was also the first time that I had seen a white guy’s dick with my own eyes. I immediately wanted to start to suck it. G and I started making out for a long time where we both took turns to blow each other at some point. S was very much enjoying the show herself. At one point I went to S and started to make out with her as well while G started masturbating watching us. After the foreplay, I started fucking S. I asked G to come near me so that I could suck his dick while fucking S. Both me and G came very close to cumming. G got behind me and started fingering my asshole and masturbating. I was enjoying fucking S and getting fingered by G at the same time and a few minutes later I started to cum inside S. At the same time, G told me that he was going to cum as well and asked me if it was okay to cum on my body. I told him to cum inside my mouth but it was too late and he already came on the ass which I was still happy with.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We were all very cool with it. S is still my girlfriend and both of us remain very good friends with G. Although we went back to Italy, we still keep contact through Facebook and WhatsApp.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, Making new friends, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Some trusted friends. They are non-judgmental and they were pretty okay with it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? First time being the center of a threesome. First time experiencing bi-sexuality.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not having penetrative sex with G.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Didn’t change anything. I was always open and positive about it.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We still remain good friends with G

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is normal and should be more widely accepted. We should all say yes to more sex.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great! I love it!

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!