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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? South Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Dhaka, Bangladesh
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Engineer and Musician
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Polygamous, Romantically only attracted to women but physically attracted to men as well
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

MMF Threesome with Girlfriend and Her Ex-Lover in Bangladesh

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? S is my girlfriend with whom I’ve been in mostly an open relationship for the last three years. All of us are Bangladeshi south Asians so naturally, all of us have dark skins. S has darker skin than all of us. She is very beautiful, slim, sexy and very natural. She usually doesn’t shave her body or pubic and I also like it that way. S had a short fling with Ra few months before the incident. At that time me and S had some problems between us and I was having a short fling of my own with another time and S and R started hooking up. R only had a break up recently. After a few weeks, me and S got back together and R was trying to fix things up with his ex (T) as well. T was also the best friend of S and they used to have lesbian make outs in the past as well. Even when S and R stopped hooking up, they still kept in touch and occasionally make out. Actually, me and R played together in a band together in my university. And all of us are from the same university. So we all knew each other very well and were friends as well.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had recently got my first job so I threw a party at a friend’s place. So there was tequila for everyone and everyone was drinking as much as they want. There was six of us at the party. Me, S, R, T and the couple who owned the house. S already knew I wanted to do threesomes with her. We had a threesome before once with another guy but that one didn’t go very well because the other guy was too shy. So this time S wasn’t so sure about doing a threesome with R. But she agreed to give it a shot and said if she felt like it, she will do it later on. After some time, all of us were pretty drunk and everyone was scattered around talking with each other. I found R sitting beside S and I could sense there was something building up between them and I got very excited. After sometime when R was alone and he was still staring at S, I walked up to him and told him he could do anything with S if both of them wanted and I was not a problem. R probably wasn’t expecting this. He just listened to what I said but didn’t say anything. After sometime the other couple went to back to their room. So only Me, S, R and T were left in the room. T quickly passed out.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After T fell asleep, it was only me, S and R still awake. We knew that T would not want to be a part of this so when she went to sleep I knew there was a really good chance of this happening. I started making out with S with R sitting just beside us. After some time I took off S’s pant and started giving her head in front of R. S went with it so I could understand at that point she was wanting it as well. When I was giving head to S, S and R were staring directly at each others eyes and S was rubbing R’s back. I could really feel that they were both getting excited by it as well. At one point, R and S started kissing each other while I was still fingering and sucking S’s pussy. They were kissing really softly and R wasn’t touching any other part of S’s body yet. I understood that it was because R was confused about how far he should go in front of me. So I took one of his hand and placed it directly on S’s boobs. From that point, they also started making out heavily and touching each other. After sometime I got up and asked R if he wanted to suck S’s pussy as well. He obliged and started giving her head. So I took off my pants and S’s shirt and S started giving me a blowjob. After that, we changed position again and this time I penetrated S in missionary position and the same time she was blowing R. We changed position again and I started fucking her in doggy style and she continued to suck R’s dick. It was really an intense pleasurable experience seeing her blowing another man from that close while I was fucking her. We went on for a long time and all of us were really enjoying ourself. At one point I pulled out and R asked me if it was okay if he fucked her as well. I said go on and he started to fuck her in the same doggy style again and I sat beside them observing them having sex from a very close up. It was an intense pleasure seeing my girlfriend getting fucked by her lover and all of us enjoying it. In the end, none of us had any orgasm as all of us were too drunk to have it. But it was still very pleasurable. And T was still sleeping throughout the whole time.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the sex, R went to sleep with his girlfriend and me and S fell asleep cuddling with each other. I really wanted it to happen regularly. But somehow that never happened. Next day we didn’t talk about it as everyone in the party woke up so we hung out as a group.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Withdrawal

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Some close friends. They were non-judgmental and accepted it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Our first threesome that both me and my girlfriend really enjoyed.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not being able to cum.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really. I was always very positive about casual sex.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I really wanted it to continue but for many reasons, it didn’t. We haven’t yet found another partner with whom we could have regular threesomes.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Sex is very natural regardless of love or commitment. So I think casual sex is very normal to explore the other sexual areas and fantasies that doesn’t involve love or commitment. We should never say no to more sex.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This is really a beautiful project. I have been a regular reader for a while. Now I feel more confident and want to share my stories here as well.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!