What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? FL
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? >30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 3
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 weeks ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Joe is over 50 years old and Latino. He’s short, has a beer gut, and not very attractive.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After I turned 18, my mom insisted I come and spend time with her. Mom cheated on my dad a few years ago and we’ve rarely spoken since. After putting her off for a year, I reluctantly drove an hour to spend the weekend with her. Mom lives in a two bedroom apartment with Joe. He builds houses and was wearing dirty clothes. I spent the day with mom before she had to go into work. She works a shift at a local hospital. After she left, I met some guys my age and we went to their place to smoke a few joints. I was feeling good and began giving head to one of the guys but he never got hard. His friend kept laughing with an annoying sound so I left.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was around 11 pm when I got back to my mom’s place and Joe was in the bed. I took off my clothes and began giving him head. He responded.
He got hard quickly and I got on top and we started having sex. He didn’t last long and finished inside me. I took a shower and went to bed.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning, I heard my mom come home from work and I could hear the two of them having sex through the paper thin walls.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My BFF and current boyfriend. My BFF laughed. My boyfriend thought it was a hot story.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having sex with my mom’s live-in boyfriend. Mom treated my dad bad during the divorce.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I wish I had told Mom I had sex with Joe just to piss her off. I don’t think my mom would have given a shit though.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Joe was good at sex and I would have sex with him again.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love having casual sex with people I meet.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like sharing my different experiences on an anonymous forum. My experiences have helped my BFF begin having casual sex.
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