What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 53
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? US Midwest
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Truck driver
What’s your current relationship status? I’m in an open relationship with 2 women they know eachother and get along. We do not play together.
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 100+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Monday Night Football
How long ago did this hookup happen? 20 or 21 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was attractive. I had been divorced for a few years and finally bought my own house. It turns out I’m good at the home maintenance but not house keeping. A friend at work introduced me to a woman that did house keeping part time.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We both worked 2nd shift. She would clean the house late morning or early afternoon… while I was home. We got along well. After 4-5 times she called to tell me her boyfriend would not let her work for single men anymore… because she kept coming home happy. We didn’t have sex we had not even touched. A few months later she called. I told her I had another house keeper. She said the boyfriend was gone, would I like to come over and watch Monday night football. We were both working days by then.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I’m always oral and vaginal. Kinky?…A few times in she answered the phone during our 2nd time that night. I slowed my pace but didn’t pull out because I hadn’t had that happen before. She informed the caller, her ex boyfriend, that she was fucking. She hung up and ask me to cum on her face but aim for her mouth because she wanted to taste me. I did and she did.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We kept doing Monday nights for most of the season. I had no expectations. I feel very ok about her now… heck I’m telling the story more than 20 years later.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Not sure…it is just stuff I do in my life.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The fun phone story.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I can’t think of one.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really. Was fun.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Nice memory.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is fun. I’m lucky I am still ‘clean’. I’m much more careful now. Friends with benefits can be very fun but complicated…see above relationship status.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This may be the best way to record a subject that history does not seem to want to record until now… thank you for this.
You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!