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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 27
What’s your race/ethnicity? Indian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? India
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Researcher
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual

More Than A Conference

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 week

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She is a beautiful Indian woman. She weighed a little more, was a little short and had nice breasts. I will call her T. Both of us are from the same state in India and were attending a conference at a nice southern Europian city. Our mother tongue is the same and we had lots of friends in common, which helped us start a conversation. She was caring, which is why I felt an initial attraction to her. We roamed around the city together, sometimes with a group sometimes only the two of us.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? 3/4 days after we met, I was already attracted to her. One night we walked by the sea. Due to cold wind, lots of touching happened and I was kind of aroused, but that day I didn’t do anything, nothing happened from her side also. The next day the two of us visited a nearby castle. Again it was by the sea and the sun started to set, she was busy capturing photos of nature. That was the first time I kissed her. I think she wasn’t ready for this. We hugged each other after she liked the hug more. Then we went for dinner with other people, throughout the dinner she was silent to me. After the dinner, we returned to our guest house. We were alone and she wasn’t speaking to me normally. That made me think about whether I have done the right thing to her, should I say sorry to her etc.

After returning to the guest house, she knocked on my door. We had to make plans for a trip to the capital of a neighboring country. That was planned well before my first move, and the plan was for only two of us. I went to her room, and this time she kissed me!!

Instead of making any plan we did a little bit of foreplay, then I came back to my room since her roomate was about to arrive. The next day we went to the other country’s capital. Through out the day, lots of kissing hugging and other things happened. Sometimes we did public displays of affection, given we are in Europe, it was natural (not usual for India). At night we came back to the guest house, and her roomate was not there for the night!!

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Since her roommate was away that night, we decided to sleep together. At first, it seemed awkward, but once we were in bed, everything was smooth. This was the first time we played with each other’s genitals directly. Then we fell asleep cuddling each other. Around midnight I went back to my room, as my roommate might suspect. Early in the morning, I came back to her again and we fell asleep again, cuddling each other. Then we got up, it was Sunday. We went to the city for a lunch with others. Then the two of us separated from the group to roam around in the city, and we utilized the opportunity at our best.

The subsequent week we played with each other whenever we got the opportunity. We did oral sex, handjob etc. It happened in her room, a lonely place by the sea and so on.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Sadly after 1 week of love/affection, we parted ways, since the conferrence was over. We had to head for our respective homes. Also before all these things happened I mentioned to her that I was engaged, she understood me, and she agrees that our relationship can’t have a future.

The good thing is she stays in my hometown. I can meet her whenever I visit my parents. For now, we don’t have any plans to take this to the next level, but I think we will be good friends forever. Since our tastes match, we like each other a lot, and we are about each other.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more confident

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? None personally. To all the people whoever is reading this.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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