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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 38
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Med Tech
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 23
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Morning Confusion

How long ago did this hookup happen? Five years

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met Mike at a work event when I used to cater on weekends, and he was like a sound guy/DJ for parties. He was curly headed, taller than me, real sexy with a little grey at the temples. He just started flirting hard with me. I was very attracted to his fun personality. He would border on saying something inappropriate and then back off, say “I’m sorry, too forward,” and then ten seconds later say something like, “so what color are your panties?” This kind of behavior on anyone would else would fail, but he had this irony about him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We did a huge party at a rental house until 1 am and then had to clean up. My boss if we could take care of the rest of the mess. And I saw Mike was still there, so I said yeah. So we were alone. I didn’t know for sure what would happen. I was finishing the kitchen, and he came in. We stood in front of the refrigerator for a second, and he put his hands on my shoulders. He leaned in to kiss me, and I kissed back.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We stumbled down a hallway to a room and he undressed me standing. Like this was hottest. I put my hands over my head, and he pulled off my top. Then it took forever for him to figure out that my bra was a front hook. But when he got it off, we kissed while he played with my nipples. Then, he undid my skirt, pulled it down and took my panties down. The first thing he did was push me down on the edge of the bed and licked my wet pussy. So direct. It was very good, but I did not come. He got up in bed and had pulled his pants off. He had one of those medium-sized, straight cocks and it was very hard. He asked me to suck him, which I did. Then he helped onto my back, and we fucked with him on top. I was aroused partly because the sex was illicit. I had an orgasm, and he slowed down and asked for oral again. It was most plaintive like if he didn’t get it, he would be depressed. Now, this is the slightly embarrassing part because I was really into whispering. So asked how he wanted to come. And he said, do you want me in your mouth? He pulled out and moved up by my head and started to stroke himself in front of me, which was a turn on, and at the same time I did not want it all over me, I remember saying, not on my face, but you can do it in my mouth. And I guess that did it for him because he surged forward and finished in my mouth.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We laid there for a minute and got dressed. He wanted to go out on the town, but I was due home. I still work with him occasionally when catering season rolls around.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, To feel more desirable

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Never told anyone

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The physical sex. His orgasm sound.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I took it as a sign to get divorced.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? This hookup was the first time I just did it with someone after the college phase. I’d been with my husband, whom I did like, but the sex was dull. So it reminded me that I didn’t really want the life being offered to me.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Obviously, everyone has tons of partners now. I think it makes us smarter but cynical.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A bit many “creative writers” but some obviously real stories.

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