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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 59
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Houston, TX
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Chemist
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 13, before, I met 2d husband. 2d husband and I are swingers and now it is well over 100.
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

My 1st Threesome

How long ago did this hookup happen? 36 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met Jay at a bar, when I was with my husband. He was 5’8″ 180lbs, brown hair, with brown eyes.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My husband Doug and I were at a honky tonk discussing fantasies and the subject of threesomes came up. We both wanted one, me a MFM he a FMF. He went to play pool, I went to dance, and unbeknownst to him I was going to carry through on my fantasy and find someone interested. There was really no planning and I instigated the threesome.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I took him to meet Doug after dancing with him. We agreed to go back to our apartment. Doug was going to make him a drink. I went upstairs to change into something more “comfortable.” As I was changing I was just down to my panties. I looked up in the mirror and saw him. We embraced and started to make out, and during this my panties were peeled. He put me on the bed and began to french me. It was very erotic, I was “cheating,” and my husband was downstairs. During that time I became aware that Doug was now beside the bed watching me being serviced. He got undressed a I began to blow my lover. I was on my knees and Doug entered me doggy style. I was in a “chinese fire cuffs,” one going on my mouth and one in my pussy. During the encounter they both had orgasms in my pussy and mouth. But the “coup de gras,” was BOTH got me in the behind! This was the first time I did anal.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now?The next day I felt like a slut. I did not want to see the guy again so we avoided that bar. After being with my second husband for over 30 years and us being swingers, I tend to chuckle at the thought of this spontaneous hook-up, when I was so naive.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Prescription sedatives (Valium, Xanax, Diazepam, Quaaludes, Phenobarbital)

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Prescription sedatives (Valium, Xanax, Diazepam, Quaaludes, Phenobarbital)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? I’m not sure / I don’t know

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My second husband, he helped reassure me that it was not that unusual and okay.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I do no think my husband expected it to actually happen and I later denied him having a FMF hook-up.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Explaining it to my second husband allowed me to enter swinging without any reservations.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? My husband at the time pressuring me to have a FMF.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I understand that sometimes sex is just for fun.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Well, during my divorce years it opened my thinking that casual sex was fun. The st six months of my separation I had seven lovers and I did them all on the 1st date.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is an awesome way to get things off you chest without having to discuss it with people you know. Thank-you.

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