Gender: M
Age: 38
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Current location: United States
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)  MFA
Occupation: Writer
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Hundreds
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

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How long ago did this hookup happen? Four months ago

How would you best classify this hookup?  Short fling

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it?  Met in a bar, went home with her.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end?  The story says it all.  Vaginal intercourse.  I felt distant.  She was into it.  She was not a great lover–I didn’t feel much chemistry.  She complimented me.  I left her apartment.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)?  Me-one.  She-multiple.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history?  Condom.  Yes.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup?  Recreational

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much?  Alcohol.  Very little.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We actually became friends and she started using me as an artist’s model.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react?  I talked to a few women about it.  About the painting of me.  No details about the sex.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner?  Consensual

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why?  A little.  I was disconnected.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general?  I like her–she’s smart and truly talented as an artist.  The worst part was how disconnected I felt–she likes me too much and I don’t have sex with her anymore.  I know these feelings well so this hookup taught me nothing I didn’t know.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience?  Semi.

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience?  Semi.

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