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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 16
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Around 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

My Boy from Camp

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2-3 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s tall and has a lot of beautiful hair. His eyelashes are blond and black and he has a big nose and high cheekbones. He loves nature and is an environmental activist. I met him at camp 3 years before, I had a crush on him the second year we were at camp together, afterward we hung out and hooked up a little. He’s a busy person and live far, so we talk sporadically but it always feels like we never stopped talking. I think he’s very attractive. He’s an inspirational person, he has already achieved so much and that’s kind of intimidating to me. He’s incredibly adventurous and loves to explore.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My family owns a farm 3 or so hours away from where he lives, when I went up for the weekend I asked him if he wanted to meet me up there. I don’t remember who instigated it was going to happen and we both knew before we got up there, I don’t remember how that happened tho.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? There was a lot of teasing and foreplay. We both did oral and we had sex once. He was incredibly respectful and it was very reciprocal but he was also pretty dominant which I love. It ended because we were both tired and we wanted to sleep.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day I felt mostly great about it. He had to leave pretty early in the day, so we ate breakfast together and spent a few hours together before he had to go. I felt sad once he left not about the hook up but because I so rarely see him. He’s nomadic so I don’t think he’ll ever settle down with someone and if he does they’d have to live that way too. I would love to live that way, but I also have other things going on in my life and I’m not great at commitment. I love the idea of a relationship but I don’t ever expect that to happen. I want it to happen again, and I want to spend more time with him in the future but I have no idea what will happen.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend Claire was excited, I showed some pictures of him and my friends thought he was hot.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How reciprocal it was, I felt respected, and at the same time sexy and feminine and considered

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Saying goodbye

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No but it’s confirmed things

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was the first time another person has made feel that good, I’d never had really good sex with a guy before

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s different for everyone, I communication is important in all sex and if you can do that with who you’re with, sex will go much better. Sex can be beautiful and feel so good and change your perspective of your body and yourself in good and bad ways, so choose your partner wisely whether or not that means you’re in a long-term romantic relationship or not.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a great idea. Sex is so unnormalized, this is a fantastic way to learn about sex, in a way that porn and sex ed don’t teach you, but that needs to be taught.

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