by lily bloom
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA, NY
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
My Childhood Crush
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s about 6 foot 1 blonde and medium built. We’ve known each other our whole life, but it’s not like we were extremely close. No hookup before but had been wanting to hook up for a long time. I lived in NY and he still lived in my hometown so when I when to visit back home my cousin took me straight to his house from the airport. We met when we were kids. He was my mom’s friend stepson ( pretty close family friend)
Before the hook up I always knew we were sexually attracted to each other but nothing much else. I actually thought he was a cocky ass guy but now I know that’s what attracted him to me.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We used to talk from time to time and we always ended up talking about sex with each other somehow. We just started texting and I told him I was going to visit and he suggested we go out but I was forward and decided to just meet at his house. I was never really interested in him in any other way, just because he was hot and kind of a taking control type of guy and they turn me on, but at the same time, I can’t stand them.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Well, when I first got to his house he was so drunk and he told me to take my top off and that he would come back and we could start. Now that caught me off guard and I wanted to say fuck him like what an ass, but I decided that I had come all the way here and I wasn’t going to let his stupid ego get in the way. So I straight up told him to calm down and we just started talking about nothing really than it turned into foreplay and we started fucking. It was fun nice package and I’m really into blow jobs so I did that on and off during. I was actually having fun because after such a long time I felt like I was doing something that needed to happen eventually and let’s be real I was showing off like hell. He was pretty good but it was mostly me doing the work and him complimenting me which I enjoyed very much. Well after we smoked a blunt and drank some water and we went back at it with me just giving him a blow job. After an hour after that we just said bye he walked me out and that was it.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We did see each other the next day because it was his sister’s birthday but it was like nothing happened. I felt good and satisfied. Not many expectations or hopes for the future just that maybe we can hook up again some other time. I still see him from time to time since there a close family friend.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Power / Dominance
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? sister told me it was long overdue and my cousin was a bit weirded out because she said, how can people just hook up, she didn’t get that you could just have sex and that’s all.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? the pleasure of showing off, being dominant.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He was kinda rude in the beginning and I’m pretty sure he told his dad about it which is weird but I think he was just trying to show off.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, it really showed me that it was okay to have a hookup and be okay afterwards and that I could have casual sex. It made me confident in being okay with people knowing that I am a sexual being and that I will not be put down for doing something that I want for desired just because of the stereotype that came with it.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? casual sex can be fun and exciting especially for someone that’s trying to understand their body and sexual being. I think society needs to normalize it and be okay with understanding that everyone needs sex and its okay to have sex with people and not be emotionally attached.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think its amazing how people can come here and write about it I know I had fun doing so and it took me back to a place where I started to find my sexual self and be okay with having fantasies and watching porn and just doing whatever I want with someone or with myself, sex is an incredible thing when its two or more consenting adults.
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