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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2

My Cock-Type

How long ago did this hookup happen? A few hours

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? It was our first date, I had only seen a few pictures and couldn’t really estimate if I’d find him physically attractive. He is a little taller than me (average height), blond hair, gorgeous blue eyes, and wears glasses. We had been messaging each other for two weeks and were supposed to go on a date the week before, but he got sick. We were excited to meet each other, but I was also a bit nervous. He struck me as very dominant and a bit of a know-it-all, and I wasn’t sure if I’d like that. However, the fact that we kept messaging each other and he was willing to travel 1.5 hours to see me made up for that.
We met at the train station and walked over to a bar where we had a few beers and talked. Indeed, he was very opinionated, and it became clear that we did not agree on many topics. On the other hand, the conversation went well, as in we were very open and talkative, there were no awkward silences, and we were comfortable teasing each other.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He missed the opportunity to take the last train home, not even on purpose (he felt a bit guilty about it), but I was ok with it. We went home in the cold and crawled up to each other on the couch to warm up. He was quite careful, sometimes touching my hand for a short time, I guess to see how I’d react? Because we didn’t really connect well, I needed those signals to know if he was actually interested in me. Then he kissed me. And the moment that I knew “we’re totally gonna do this,” was when he grabbed my neck and held it tightly while kissing me, and then let go only to grab my hair and kiss me again. It really turns me on when someone does that, and I didn’t remember telling him about that preference, which made it extra exciting for me.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went upstairs to my bedroom where the temperature was a bit nicer. We got undressed and went back to kissing while exploring each other’s bodies with our fingers. I could feel that he was really hard. He had told me that he is horny all the time and masturbates twice a day, so I guess I could have expected him to be ready for me quickly and without much effort. When we were both naked, I started to feel his penis and his balls, not so much jerking it off but caressing it and I don’t know what happened but, before I knew it, I was going down on him, kissing and licking his cock… Was it the drinks? Was it the way he had grabbed my throat? I don’t ever, ever, suck dick on a first date, and I’ve had quite a few first dates that did include sex. But, it was almost automatic with him, and I loved doing it and how he reacted to it, encouraging me by saying, “FUCK YEAH” and “SUCK ME.” He even pushed my head down a bit which I also usually hate (I tend to stop abruptly when a guy does that) but it wasn’t in a forceful manner, more a way to let me know he enjoyed it I guess.
I came back up after a while because I knew we were both tired and weren’t going to do a second round, and I wanted to feel him inside of me. Luckily, he first chose to return the favor by going down on me, and I knew I wasn’t going to come, but I was just happy he was willing to do it and that him being dominant didn’t mean he was only interested in his pleasure.
He asked if I had condoms upstairs and I got them out of the nightstand. We were both relieved that the other person wanted to use a condom. It seems more than logical but unfortunately, even in hookups a lot of people take the risk of not using protection, and for me, that is a big mood-killer. We didn’t have that issue, he put that nice cock inside of me and fucked me missionary, pulled my legs up so he could fuck me deeper, and grabbed my hair and throat again. After a while, we switched and I rode him for what seemed like a long time and when his cock accidentally slipped out, he took the opportunity to put me on my hands and knees and fuck me doggy which I love. He came inside of me and we quickly freshened up and got back in bed to cuddle.

The next morning he was softly touching me with his fingertips, moving them all over my body. I wasn’t sure if he was just being sweet or trying to seduce me. I loved being touched by him but wasn’t sure how to respond, so after a while, I asked him if he was completely awake and he confirmed. I then turned around and started to caress him back and we kissed again. It’s funny how we went from soft sweet kisses to once again, him grabbing me tightly and kissing very passionately, I loved it and was instantly turned on again. I found myself kissing and licking his cock again, but this time with a sober mind, and I realized the reason that I had enjoyed it the night before: his cock was totally my type! It was thick with a nice big head and responded to everything I did. It reminded me of a cock I used to know. I sucked him while he fingered me from behind, and it ended with me riding him again until he came. Then I let my head rest on his chest and got a chance to really look at his body and play with his chest hair. As much as he’s not my type personality-wise, I love this guy physically.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We stayed in bed for quite a while, then we showered and he made us coffee while I put on my make-up. But there wasn’t any more kissing or cuddling or sitting on each other’s lap after that, which made me feel like either he wasn’t very affectionate outside of the bedroom, or his feelings were just like mine, non-romantic, which would be great. I’ve honestly been looking for a guy like this to have as a friend with benefits. He’s perfect for it. I could make love to him without being in love with him, which is exactly what I need. I’d like a real relationship more. But until then, I hope he agrees with me about being FWB’s.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Just to my colleague with whom I’d also discussed it with the day before, since my date reminded me of him. My colleague and I don’t have the most professional relationship and he thought the story was amusing and gave me a thumbs up about the conclusion.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Honestly, I haven’t had a satisfying sexual encounter in over 2 months. I really really needed this. Not just the moment itself, but it will also encourage me to start dating again and to appreciate casual sex.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We only did the standard moves, I guess. Exactly these things happen in just about every hook-up.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, it helped to recover my positive opinion about casual sex

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I am hoping to see him again soon but a little nervous that because we didn’t really match he might not want to invest much time in me.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It has been very empowering and it has taught me a lot about myself and others.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great. Still use it regularly to get one off before going to sleep.

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