by Ria

Gender: Female
Age: 21
Race/ethnicity: Filipino
Current location: Philippines
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Draftsman
Relationship status: Attached
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Probably bi-curious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

My Dream

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months ago

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck buddy

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s part Chinese. Tall. Cute looking guy. Slim. Wears glasses. He was an Architect. I’ve met him last November 2013, through facebook and we decided to meet just for a date. And one thing led to another. We decided to become fuck buddies. We’ve been hooking up since then but stopped when I had a boyfriend. I never thought i would hook up with him.. I was just looking for a fun date and meet new people.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? First meeting. Went to dinner and had some shots. It was getting late and we just decided to let the night pass by together and not go home. Gotten horny with the kisses and of course sex. We liked it. He was so good and i am too, according to him. And we decided to just be fuck buddies because we are not ready for a serious relationship.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Kissing, petting, oral, fingering and vaginal. Sometimes he would tie my hands because i told him i like bdsm, also, he would tug my hair, slap me, spank me and choke me.. With my consent. It felt so gooood… And it was great because we are great friends too. Talked about anything. Particularly things that interests him and vice versa. He was really sweet and nice. We talked about his fantasies and mine and some history of other lovers. It ended because he was so busy with work and i am in a relationship now. But we still get in touch.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes I did. It was awesome… He’s the only one who can do that to me. Yes he did orgasm. Plenty of times too 😉

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? He sometimes uses condom. But he prefer it with none. And he would always pull out. I make sure i am on my safe days too.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Just for fun. Stress reliever for both of us.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? On the first meeting yes. The others.. No alcohol or drugs.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I miss it. I wasn’t expecting anything because i know we are just friends hooking up. But.. I would really want to be more than just friends or fuck buddies with him. He seems perfect to me. Also, we are in the same field of designing and building (he’s an architect and i’m a soon-to-be interior designer). I just go with the flow. And maybe perhaps do a project with him or something. I can’t really let go of him entirely. I just miss him. Even without the sex. Just his presence. I miss that.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A couple of trusted friends. They were okay about it.. They know me as a very liberated person.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes. We are both consensual. And we agreed upon it.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No. I don’t regret it. It was wonderful to meet him and be a part of his sexual life. Or okay. His life. His secret life. And he being a part of my secret life.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best is that We are really casual about it. No drama or fuss. Just pure fun and bliss. The worst… I can’t think of any… Hhmm. Probably the time factor since we are busy about our own lives. Especially him. It really didnt change anything i guess. Though it made me realize just how sexual i can be. And how confident i can be that i can have this power over him.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I’d wish he’d miss me too. This is the part i hate. Getting attached. I know it is stupid. But i can’t lie to myself. I definitely miss him. Both in a sexual and in a non-sexual way.

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