What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? South America
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
My Fetish with Physicist
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 week ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We meet through Tinder. He and I study at the same University. He is my ex’s friend, and both of them are physicists. I just broke up with my ex who I was in a long-distance relationship with.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? First meeting after an afternoon together. We share many things in common. There was no planning. We both flirted with each other.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Mostly vaginal and BSDM. We were both very kinky and had sex all night long without talking too much. It ended next day in a hotel room.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt more confident in myself and less sad about my recent breakup. We are friends and are willing to hook up again soon.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Plan B / Emergency contraception
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Just happened, I don’t know why just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Close friends
They were shocked by the fact that he was my ex’s friend and also a physicist.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It happened at the right time.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We did not use a condom :O
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I feel freer and desired.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? After it, I answer my ex’s messages and told him about it. He didn’t care and even got more willing about the idea of meeting again for casual sex as well.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? If both parties show consent, it can be a very rewarding experience.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think this is the best way to eliminate the prejudices about casual sex.
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