What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 50
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Indy
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Financial advisor
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? 80 heterosexual 20 bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 300
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? Zero
My First 3some
How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Divorce
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? They were a married couple about 10 years younger than me. She stood five foot six and had a small frame. He stood six foot five, and he looked like a bodybuilder. I was on a website looking for hookups and meeting married couples.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had chatted online for several weeks, and they told me that a certain night their kids would be asleep by 9. So, if I came by, I could use the back door, and the kids would not know I was there.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I arrived at their house around 9, and they met me at the door. We walked to the back of the house into their bedroom, and she proceeded to lay down on their bed. I crawled between her legs and started licking her clitoris as he stood behind me and kissed and licked my ass. After a short while, I rolled over and took him in my mouth, commenced sucking on his cock until I knew he was about ready to blow. Then his wife grabbed it, and we shared his come. Then, I rolled his wife over and started licking her ass. As I did, I felt him slide his cock into my ass, and he continued to pump on my ass until he came. I rolled his wife over, slid my cock into her pussy, was pounding on her, and he walked around us. I started sucking his limp cock until he got hard again. After we had finished, we laid on the bed. They were excited to get a bisexual man in bed with them, but we have never spoken again even though I’ve tried to contact them.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was hoping to catch them online so we could chat some more, but we never did.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Just to have a bisexual experience with a married couple.
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Being able to be free about my sexual activities- both receiving and giving.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? None
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I just wish my wife today would be more open about sexual activities.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I just would like to meet the couple once again to have a good RAHU (random ass hookup). I wouldn’t change a thing.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wouldn’t change a thing.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I’m a big supporter of casual sex.
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