What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 62
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? US
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? nurse
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Dirty old man!
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

My First Affair

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met this woman on Ashley Madison. She was divorced from a openly cheating husband. She was looking for a sexual no string relationship at that time. Tall, red haired, same profession as me so we had that to talk about.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It all started on line, conversation, comparing notes. Eventually advanced to lunch date and some make out sessions in her car. After some missed dates we finally connected on my boat.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She came to my boat and brought me lunch. After a very lunch that was filled with sexual tension we started making out and I removed her sweater and we moved to the forward berth. If you have ever been on a small sailboat you know how cramped it be. As she removed her clothes I observed that she had a full figure that I and not noticed when she was clothed. We engaged in mutual oral sex before engaging in full coitus in multiple positions. When we were finished she commented that she had enjoyed it very much and had several orgasms. I did not cum but still had a wonderful time playing with this lady.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? This was fun for both of us and we planned a repeat performance. We did have a couple of more encounters

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, she had an IUD (Intrauterine device) and we discussed STI testing history.

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, hoping or expecting it would lead to something more.

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent.

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? no one

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? SEX. At the time I was 60 years old and had not been with another woman in about 30+ years. Can you say “performance anxiety?” I was pleasantly surprised that I lasted several hours and had an partner who thoroughly enjoyed my performance . Even though I did not cum it still was a very good time especially with a happy partner.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I had to go to work after our tryst.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Before I was unsure about my seeking sex from someone other than my wife. Since I have come to grips it is now something I seek out occasionally.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? A lovely caring woman, we eventually went our separate ways as she had family issues that interfered in our relationship.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have enjoyed this aspect of my sexuality greatly. Un fortunately, my wife does not share the libido and desire that I have for sex.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Probably a good research tool to expand the demographics of casual sex research.

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