by Emma

Gender: F
Age: 24
Race/ethnicity: Asian
Location: Hong Kong
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Web Master
Relationship status: Complicated
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

My First and Best Sex Partner

How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 months ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? friends-with-benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I graduated and was looking for a room last year, and that’s how I met him. He and his wife were living in an apartment with one spare room for rent. So I moved in in September last year. He’s a little bit fat but so cute, not handsome at all but very interesting and charming. He and his wife are very nice people. They treated me so well, and we were so close as if we were a family.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? His wife was out of town for a business trip. One night, we had dinner together and bought some beer home. We drank and talked for so long, talking about our experiences. At that time I just broke up with my boyfriend and was a bit sad. Then we talked about sex. He was surprised that I was still a virgin (I had slept with two men before, they neither of them had successful penetration, we just did oral). We were a little bit drunk, and he suddenly asked me whether he could do oral for me. I was a bit shocked and thought he was joking. Then I went to take the shower, and went back to my own room. But he just stood by my door, and that was when it happened.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He touched, kissed me and did oral and fingering for me. Everything was so gentle and he kept talking sweet words to me, like I love you, I’ve always fantasized to have sex with you since you moved in. I didn’t have an orgasm but I felt so great, everything was so nice and perfect. The next morning, we finally did vaginal sex. So technically, he was my first man. That was my first time so I didn’t feel too much pleasure, but later, we had sex once a week. I remember I had an orgasm when he did fingering for me. But I never had orgasm during vaginal sex.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t discuss STI history. But we used condom every time.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Attracted to each other. For him, I think more like cheating, and it will bring him more pleasure and excitement.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Yes, but not much, just several cans of beer.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We kept this relationship for about half a year, and then I moved out. We stopped now.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend, she told me not to fall in love with married man.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I can’t say. I felt sorry for his wife, since we three lived together and his wife had always been very nice to me. But I really liked him, in bed.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Before, I was somewhat against ONS, but now I think there’s nothing wrong about it, as long as it didn’t hurt other people.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!