What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 32
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? SF
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Project Manager
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Want to explore more
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
My First Casual Sex
How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’m attracted to him when I first met him. He’s tall, slim, stylish, mature. Met him at a bar that night (Connected via dating app).
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? During dinner I was a bit tipsy already cuz I had a few drinks before the meet up. We had a few more drinks and I was more open up. We had so much connection and attraction towards each other. I hugged him and we kissed at the bar. After dinner he invited me to his apartment. I asked him to just chill, he agreed but we ended up making out and started to have sex.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was the best sex I’vd ever had. Though it was our first date, I guess that’s why I felt so good. It was new and exciting.. the thrill.. I was more loose after a few drinks and cuz I was traveling. Nobody would ever know. I had no pressure/baggage during sex. He’s so good at oral sex and fingering, and he’s the first guy that made me cum.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I thought we could have a relationship but he can’t. I was quite upset but we remained friends.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A friend. He was proud of me
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He gave me the best oral sex ever and I came multiple times
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Can’t be more than a hook up
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I feel as long as I really want it at the moment and that we are strongly attracted to each other, I should go for it regardless of the number of date it is. It’s hard to find a strong connection.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I didn’t regret it at all even it was just a fling. The sex was amazing.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is acceptable as long as we are both single and that we have the same level of expectations towards each other.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s interesting to read real stories of others.
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