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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 51
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Toronto
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Business Owner
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? over 60
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

My First MFM

How long ago did this hookup happen? 20 yrs

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was working part time as a server at a bar. Two tall, long haired guys were in my section and as it was a slow night, I had time to talk with them. I found them very attractive and were flirting back and forth. Towards the end oft the night they asked me if I wanted to go back to their place for a little get together they were having. I asked how many people were going to be there and they said “just the three of us”. i told them I would think about it.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? On one hand I was excited about the thought of being alone with two strangers and what might happen; but I was also a little nervous. My husband is very opened minded and I up until this point I had two one night stands during our marriage that he knew about and approved of. We had talked about a threesome but it never went beyond the fantasizing. I called my husband and asked what he thought and with his approval I said yes. It was in the summer and after work I changed into my shorts and tank top. “J” drove with me in my car and we followed “M” to their place.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? During the ride there J asked me if I had ever had a threesome before and I replied no. He told me if I wasn’t into it that was fine; we would play it by ear. Driving there he reached over and gently felt my tits. I was very small at the time (have since had an enlargement) and was not wearing a bra. I love to have my nipples played with, so this along with the anticipation of what was to come began to make me wet. When we arrived J kissed me before we got out of the car and then explained the house belonged to M’s parents who were away for the summer and the two of them were staying there looking after it. Again he told me nothing would happen that I didn’t want to happen. Once inside we went into the rec room, J and I sat on a sofa and M got us all drinks then he went out of the room. J and I started to make out. We kissed and he put his hand under my top and began pinching and playing with my nipples. I reached down and rubbed his cock through his jeans and wow, was it huge and hard. He pulled my top off and started to kiss and suck my breast. I was very wet and as I began to unbutton his pants he stood up and took them off along with his shirt. We were on the sofa with him in just his underwear and me in just my shorts and thong. He unbuttoned my shorts and slipped them off. I kissed down his chest to his naval, pulled down his underwear and released the biggest, fattest cock I had ever seen. I got on my knees between his legs and started to suck and lick. I could not get my hand completely around it and could just get my mouth around the head. His balls were shaved nice and smooth which I love. i sucked his cock and balls and from the side noticed M in the doorway watching. I gave him a smile and said “do you like what you see”? Without any more encouragement, he stripped and came up behind me, burying his face in my ass and crotch. He laid on his back and attached my clit with his tongue. I was drenched and in heaven. M moved to his knees behind me and shoved his dick in me. I love the feel of a rock hard cock parting my lips as it enters me the first time. He reached around and played with my tits as he fucked me. I loved it. At one point J said lets switch. I was a little nervous about this monster cock but once we changed positions and I was sucking M his cock eased into me. I was so wet, so horny, when J started to fuck me too fast it did hurt a little and I had to tell him to slow down. We switched back again after some time and M came fucking me from behind. I sucked J off and he came on my tits.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We sat around , had a drink, talked and got to know a little bit about each other. I am not sure if I told them that i was married. I went home and told my husband all about the night as he went down on me until I came. Didn’t have any expectations. Thought it would be a one night stand. Months later i hooked up with J, but never had sex with M again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Only my husband. We do not “play” very often. It’s just for excitement, no emotional attachment to our playmates. Our close friends do not know.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Knowing they found me so attractive. They were nice people and treated me with respect. They weren’t pushy

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing bad about it.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I was 22 and my husband 34 when we married. I had many partners but did not orgasm often and I believe up until then had sex mostly to feel accept. He showed me sex should be fun and enjoyable. The night of this hook up I had already accepted it would just be sex for fun.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? What other people do with their sex life should be of no concern to anyone else. Casual sex is just that, only lust not love. As a married couple we have a great sex life and only engage in casual sex when its agreeable to both of us. No commitment nor emotions beyond the lust. Who knows, maybe our close friends feel he same way and do the same things, but approaching them about it would be awkward and , having casual sex with them would distroy the friendship. Casual sex once in awhile with casual playmates works for us.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A great idea. I love reading about others experiences and comparing them to mine.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!