What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Thailand
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Nurse
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

My First Sex

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is 38 years old, he is tall and a foreigner. He is my cousin in law, i have known him more than 10 years, never hooked up before. I met him and my cousin at my hometown when I was 15 years old. At that time I thought he was handsome and a good person.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup began after 1 year when I moved overseas and stayed with my cousin family. We felt closed to each other, I was with him alone during he dropped me off at a train station in the early morning. He instigated it first and wanted to teach me how sexual intercourse is because at that time I was virgin (27 yr).

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Vaginal intercourse took place at the first time. I was excited and worried during sex. He behaved gently toward me. Yes, he is a good lover and my first sex partner.
We had sex once a week at home, in a car, in a hotel, in a garage, in front of the door. Every time, we had sex my cousin (his wife) didn’t know, still the secret between us. The hookup end when I moved back to my country.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We had sex once a week after the hookup. I felt guilty and ashamed and upset that I had sex with my cousin husband. I hope he is in good relationship with his wife. I am ok with him but I don’t want to stay close to him ever again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Withdrawal, Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No, I keep this story secret

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Do you regret this hookup? Very much

Why do you regret this hookup? Because he is my cousin’s husband, I shouldn’t have done sex with him.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I learned how to have sex, and I understand more how my body work during orgasm.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was not the right thing to happen, I feel I was an affair.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, my idea of sexuality changed, sex is not a big deal for me anymore, I am not scared to have sex. I feel I am a mature woman, not a girl.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I am afraid to tell this story to anyone, I feel uncomfortable to keep it secret but I am ashamed to tell the story to my family and friends.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Causal sex is just for fun. But it shouldn’t have happened with the one who already have partners.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is good to explore more different of casual sex stories around the world. It might help people concern more about it.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!