What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 50
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Houston
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Medical profession
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 20 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? John was tall, young and sexy. I love tall, slim guys. When sitting with him in his office, I fantasized about climbing on top of him while he was kicked back in his office chair. He was living with someone at the time, but all I could think about was sex with him, since I thought it would only ever be in my mind.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The first time we had sex was in my apartment. We looked at some porn on my computer while I sat on his lap and he fingered me. Then, we had sex on my sofa and my bed. He felt bad, since he was living with someone, and said he didn’t want to do it again and said he would never let it get to a point where we were meeting in hotels.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Of course, we ended up being together multiple times, including in hotels. It was a sweet relationship. We cared about each other and wanted the best for each other. He would say he didn’t want to kiss me because that was too intimate, then we would lie together on the sofa, and he would spoon me and kiss me on the forehead. The sex was so good. One time, we had sex on my cousin’s living room floor, bed, and shower. We had sex sitting on her shower chair. When I looked down, it made me so horny to see his beautiful big pink shiny cock sliding inside my pink, pearly pussy. He was a grower instead of a shower. I could put his entire cock in my mouth, and then it would grow so big I would almost choke on it. Another great moment was when we were fucking in his apartment, watching ourselves in the mirrors on the closet doors in his bedroom. I loved watching his muscles flex as he pumped his cock inside me. Oh, God. It’s been so many years, but my pussy still throbs thinking of him pumping inside me. Sometimes, before he would cum, he would slow down and have me hold his cock so I could feel the cum pulsing out of his cock inside me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Sometimes I would feel bad because he had a girlfriend, then fiancé, then wife. But most of the time, I just felt so fucking horny every time I thought about him. I didn’t want to take him away from his wife; I just wanted to fuck him. I felt like what we had had nothing to do with what they had. It was a pure animal attraction thing, and he cared about me like a little sister, which was weird, but ok. I have never had such an intimate relationship with anyone.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I only talked about it to one other person, and it was because he was married and I needed someone to tell me it wasn’t cool to continue the relationship we had.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Even though our relationship was hidden from everyone, it was the most intimate relationship I’ve ever had. We were so open and giving and talked about everything. We explored our bodies and our sexuality.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Towards the end, I fell in love with him, and he was in love with someone else.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me feel more open about sexual relationships. I realized that even if you didn’t have a loving girlfriend/boyfriend relationship with someone, you could still have a very loving, intimate sexual relationship. I felt more comfortable with my body and my sexuality.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex has been the foundation of my sexuality throughout my life. Some of it was not great, other encounters were amazing and the best things that ever happened to me. I feel blessed to have had multiple sexual encounters and hope to have many, MANY more.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great. I LOVE sharing my stories and reading the stories from others.
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