What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 67
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Silver Spring, MD
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Retired Biologist
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Bisexual 1st 1/2 of life, now lesbian.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
My Hook Ups
How long ago did this hookup happen? 45
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Went to a Grateful Dead concert. Did acid. Gave driver bJ on the way home, then fucked guys I didn’t know the names of. Found it extremely interesting.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were all together and high. We all instigated it together, men and women. High point of investigatory sex for a 22 year old. Never sorry.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? They were young guys. They got off in 30 seconds. The women were just teasing them and giving bj’s and getting laid. Not one woman had an orgasm. I am always on the outside of my sexual encounters, on serving them a if I am someone else. I have become an amateur sexual social anthropologist.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We went to sleep, the guys went home. I was on the pill, but that was all. My husband never found out. Anyway, he bored me.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Hallucinogens (LSD, mushrooms, DMT…)
How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend at whose apt I was staying. She was great about it!
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I was thrilled to do something different and exciting for a change.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I wish I had been more lucid.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Made me VERY interested to want to know WHY people engage in casual sex.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? There is a book written by 2 women who decided to lay all the men they could in one year, as an experiment, and then write about it. Have you read the book?
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think for people that can handle it and consent to it, and protect themselves from disease–it’s a fine way to experiment. Just don’t think the partner “loves you”! LOL!
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great idea!
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