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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 27
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Financial representative
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

My Hot Chinese Fuck Buddy Colleague

How long ago did this hookup happen? Ongoing

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was my colleague from another department in the city of a Western country. We met for the first time when I was introduced around in the office. We were both interns. When I saw her, I was like, wow! She’s so hot and cute at the same time. The next day I asked her out for lunch. Nothing happened much for the next month as I was very busy setting up at work.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup begin when we were doing some filing together as interns. I casually told her that I had a girlfriend. It was when I told her that I have a girlfriend, she also told me that she has a boyfriend. One night a few weeks later, she suddenly messaged me that she had just broken up with her boyfriend. I was like, wow, why did she message me this? Maybe she wants to hookup? Seeing that this was my chance, I told her maybe we should grab a drink after work one day. She stays very close to the office.

So one night, we went to have dinner together before I suggested that we should go to a bar. We kinda work casually around the city and found ourselves near the office and naturally near her place. She then suggested that we could go to the bar just below her place. We went to have a few drinks and she told me everything between her and her ex-boyfriend. The night was still young, so I asked her if her place has a laptop or computer where we can watch movies. And she said yes, I suggested buying a bottle of wine and we watch movies at her place.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We choose the movies and we later sat on the bed together to watch the movie. In this city, the apartments are very small and space is very limited so we had to sit on the bed. After a while into the movie, she gave me a shoulder massage, while kneeling on the bed, behind me. We later kissed.

I took off her jeans and shorts and gave her oral. She was so wet! She said that she was never this wet before. I like to play it slowly so that it would make her feel really good. After a while, she came and I fucked her. She was so tight as well. I was very surprised by how tight she was, and it kind of hurt for her as I was quite well-endowed for an Asian. It felt so so good even though she had to keep breaking the momentum as it was too big for her. But looking at her cute face, her cute boobs and a flat tummy with that hot body, just made me really horny and I came inside her. Fuck it was so fucking good. She was on pills which she said earlier on.

I had so much inside her that she have to take a very long shower to flush everything out. But it was possibly the best sex in my life. As this was a hookup, she wanted me to go home instead of staying over, even though I could just head out to the office which was really nearby the next day. I said fine since at that time I thought it was just a one-night stand.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the first hookup, I felt very good. We kinda got closer and winked at each other at work. Every day after work, I would lie to my girlfriend that I would have to work late, but every day I was actually, in fact, working late at my fuck buddy’s apartment. We fucked every day. It was so so good. Oh my god.

After a while, she kinda got more feelings for me, and I could sense it. During Christmas, I went to visit my girlfriend’s place to meet her parents. I posted it on Instagram, and my fuck buddy saw it and was very sad (she told me the next time we met). She said she didn’t want to have sex with me anymore, but we can stay friends. But every time we met, we ended up in her place, fucking our brains out.

After a month, I had to move to another city as I got a new job offer. During the first month, we still talked. But after a while, she didn’t anymore as she found another guy. We stayed quiet for around 3 months.

During the summer, I texted her where she was and she said she was home in China. I told her that I could fly to her place to meet her. And rightfully, I did. I went to her hometown and we explored the place, it was a little awkward at first. But everything got very well again and we fucked the whole day in my hotel.

After a month of absence, we planned out an Amsterdam trip for a weekend. I lied to my girlfriend that I had to travel for work. I flew all the way out to Amsterdam and we had mushrooms, smoked and crazy sex. It was just so crazy.

I can see that we are getting very close together now, almost like an open relationship. I think she still has the perception that I might break up with my girlfriend. I’m not sure, but I don’t think so. (Hope she would not see this ever, as it’s getting a bit obvious)

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about me, to feel more desirable, to feel more confident.

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My very close friends. I showed them her pictures. They were very envious because she was really pretty and hot.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The wonderful sex

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? She’s getting closer emotionally, the timing really. If I don’t have a girlfriend, we would be together fucking our brains out in a stable relationship.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This has opened the can of worms, to be honest. I became even more engaged in casual sex after this.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We are planning our next hookup where she will come to where I am.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It has made my life more efficient and I feel so much better as a man. I feel wanted and loved. Overall, it might not be as good for the girl, but it really made me feel very good. Which is why I have made sure I was very very nice to her whenever we meet and speak.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A good way to let out a very dark secret anonymously.

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