What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 50
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? North Canton
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Sales
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3 before I was married, 1 after
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
My Husband Wanted Me to do it
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? When I finally met him face to face I was a surprised that he was so good looking. All of my prior contact with him was emails or phone calls. Talking with him on the phone I found him rather charming, but in our line of business, most men have charming personalities.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was on a business trip, finalizing sales before the year ended. I had to work closely with Ronald for 3 days to get all of the details done before the year ended. He invited me to dinner after the first day and then took me to my hotel. I found his company very easy and relaxing.
Now I had been on a lot of trips and thoughts of fooling around had ever crossed my mind, but lately my husband and I have had some problems in our sex life. He didn’t believe that he was getting all of the attention he deserved and I told him that it had a lot to do with his performance, as he’d been recovering from a long term illness. It was his suggestion that if I was so unsatisfied, that maybe I should “get something on the side”. It upset me that after all of these years he couldn’t be more understanding.
I don’t think that I deliberately planned it, but the first dinner we had together was just so nice, conversation, good food, the whole evening was just so calming. I thought that he flirted a bit to and I found that exhilarating. I will admit that the next day I dressed professionally but a tad more provocative. A lacey pushup bra and thigh highs. It got the desired effect from him, as he spent the day stealing glimpses and at dinner that night complemented on my attire. Our dinner conversation got a lot more personal and his flirting got more apparent.
The last day all I could think about was getting everything settled, and then having dinner with him again as he had already told me that he wanted to take me out to celebrate, all of these scenarios were going through my mind, and I could feel this chemistry but frankly I was too shy to initiate anything.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The last night we had dinner we had a few more drinks than normal and our conversation was all about ourselves, no shop talk. He asked me about my arrangements for leaving. I told him that I was just going to go back to my hotel and pack and get a cab to the airport in the morning. He volunteered to pick me up and drive me, and did I need any other help. I had this moment of clarity, either I was going to have this charming man or not, so I smiled and told him that was a pretty lame line if he wanted to go to my room. We both laughed and the he gave me the sweetest smile and that he would be honored to be with such a beautiful sophisticated woman as myself. I took his hand and said lets go.
When we got to my hotel, we started kissing in the elevator and the rest of the way to my room. Once inside, he slowly undressed me exploring my body with his lips and hands. He picked me up and laid me on the bed and gave me oral until I climaxed, then I finished undressing him. We lay in bed exchanging passionate kissed. I was so aroused feeling his erection rubbing against my stomach, I wanted him but he was slow and teasing asking me what I wanted.
I told him that I love doggy, rolled away from him, put my butt up. He didn’t enter me right away, massaging my checks telling me how lovely my pussy was and rubbing the head of his penis on my labia. I had two orgasms before he flipped me on my back because he wanted to kiss and see my face. He came inside me, my choice. I laughed after he came because I felt so good.
We had sex several more times and fell asleep spooning. We woke up late and I had to call the airline to change my plans. We had great shower sex after and I gave him oral.
Then he took me to the airport. On the plane I was so tempted to masturbate in the bathroom as the feeling of him leaking out of me was arousing
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I went home
I knew that we didn’t have a future by I treasue this experience
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, I had my tubes tied years ago
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel more desirable, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No One
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The escape from reality however brief recharged me. The sex was extraordinary.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? While I wasn’t worried about getting pregnant, I was very naive about having unprotected sex. I grew up in a time where we didn’t even think about STD’s
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I wish that I had a snappy answer, but I am still contemplating my actions. I do feel more femmine
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I don’t think that this will be my last time.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? In general I had very little interest in sex before this.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it
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