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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 49
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Professional services
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? 2 on the Kinsey scale.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 80 is a rough estimate
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

My Lucky Night

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 week

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was much younger than me, tall, fit, lots of energy. I was at an outdoor music festival, dancing and being awkwardly hit on by a man my age, and I simply wandered away from him into the crowd to where Sweetpea (my nickname for the young man) was dancing with his friends and started talking to him. As much as one can ‘talk’ given the volume of music and crush of the crowd. I liked his energy and strength and how he was both confident and happy to meet me.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Within a very short period of time he literally picked me up and we were kissing in the middle of the dance floor, my legs wrapped around him. He was great at kissing, which I am always so happy for, I feel it’s an indicator of good sexual connection with him. We left shortly thereafter to go to his tent.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He was a fantastic lover and we fucked several times over the course of a couple hours on an air mattress in a tent surrounded by people. I was trying to be quiet but the more I came the more uninhibited I became. He had a large cock and I could feel him against my cervix. He was great at taking control and so strong, he had me on my back, my side, on top, stomach down–as I said to a friend ‘he threw me around for a couple hours.’ I sucked his cock deep but couldn’t make him come that way, he finally came about half way through but was hard again shortly thereafter. Bless the young.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was getting light and I needed sleep, so he walked me back to my tent. I felt great about it, it was very sexually satisfying and allowed me to fulfill that need without the burden of thinking about a future with this man–we both knew it was a one night hook up going in and were not looking for anything more. I saw him the next day and we hugged and talked for a moment but didn’t exchange contact information, nor did either of us want to. I would recommend him to anyone.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) IUD (Intrauterine device)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? MDMA, ecstasy, molly, Hallucinogens (LSD, mushrooms, DMT…)

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Cocaine

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My close woman friend who I went to festival with. She laughed and was happy for me and met him the next day.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? His beautiful body and energy. I said “it’s my lucky night” when I saw him naked for the first time.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was chilly and damp in that tent!

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I do want a steady lover and partner closer to my own age, but hooking up with men who I might have a romantic/emotional interest in is much more emotionally fraught and difficult for me. Having sex with a younger man who has no interest in me as a girlfriend makes me feel powerful and strong.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have engaged in casual sex off and on for my entire adult life. I have had negative encounters where I did it because it was expected, or I hooked up with someone who was cheating on a partner. I wish that there was a lot more openness in our society so we could all talk about it, I feel that because so many people hide or feel ashamed of their casual sexual encounters no one sees that there can be a positive side. It can be very empowering and satisfying, if the circumstances are right and both parties can come to it cleanly without hurting others.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it!

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