by Cece Cooper

Gender: Female
Age: 29
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: Omaha NE
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: Bartender
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

My Roommate

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends with benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We’ll call him M. I have been friends with M for 4 years, since he moved to the state. I met him at the bar I work at. He is tall, sturdy, dark eyes. I wasn’t originally attracted to him, but he was great for conversation. We have a similar twisted sense of humor and interests in nerdy things. We clicked.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? About a year ago I was in a dark place in my life. I called him to give me a ride and he came and got me, one thing led to another. I think I instigated it as an escape from all the other bullshit going on in my life.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was just standard sex, missionary, what have you. Honestly, I don’t even remember it that much. I was really drunk and I was just looking for an escape at the time. It was very awkward later.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I don’t think either of us did.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used condoms.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was depressed and alone. Only later did I realize that he is actually a really great guy.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? A lot of alcohol on my part. Some on his.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? At first it was extremely awkward. I think we both had regrets. But we remained good friends, then recently we became roommates. I did hook up with him again, and it was so much better than the first time. We are not dating, I don’t think either one of us are looking for a relationship right now. But we do occasionally have sex. And now it’s because we want to have sex, not because I’m messed up in the head. It’s complicated because we do live together and occasionally sleep in the same bed, but we also go out and see other people. I don’t really know what that means for the future but we are kind of just figuring it out as we go.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few close friends. They said they could tell before I even told them. I don’t think anybody was surprised, and I haven’t heard anything negative.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I regret the first time because I was coming from a bad place. I wish it had happened later when I had my head on straight. But I’m glad it happened nonetheless.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best: We are still best friends who occasionally have sex. Worst: Shitty timing.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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