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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Dating several guys but no (open) relationship yet
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Polyamorous
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 22
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? About 4

My Secret Gym Crush!

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 day

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’d met this guy, I’ll just call him James, more than a year ago. But when I say ‘met’, I mean I’d seen him at the gym and never even spoke to him. Though I was literally having sexual fantasies about him every time I saw him because he looked a lot like the guy I was dating at the time and was totally hot for. The only differences I could see: James was a lot more muscular (yay!) and had this great tattoo on his arm.
He’s short, about my length. But ‘big’, great muscled arms which totally turn me on, and I saw him working on both cardio and muscles so many times that I knew he must be in great shape. Which is also why I assumed he’d be waaaaay out of my league.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had just been dumped by a guy I was seriously dating and had strong feelings for. I really needed some distraction and this is always a cue for me to get my (ethical) slut on. So I went on Tinder. After swiping left a hundred times I thought there were no more good men left on the planet, but then came number 101. He looked good so I quickly right-swiped him. Only then did it sink in that he looked familiar. I looked at his pics again and it was the guy I’d been fantasizing about for so long! We were a mutual match. I wasted no time and sent him a message. After going back and forth a few times, we agreed to see each other the next day.

He came to my house and we talked. First thing I noticed was that his personality and way of speaking was completely different from the ex-lover I had been comparing him to all this time. We had a great conversation, just very laid back and open. He wasn’t turned off by my ‘quirks’ at all and actually liked them.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Then he kissed me. It was a nice, passionate kiss, with tongue, which I liked. He was touching my legs and moving up towards my waist, which gave me the courage to freely grab those amazing arms. I complemented them and he really seemed happy to hear it. He told me he liked the (dark red) lingerie I had picked and that I looked real tasty. We were not in a hurry, yet clothes came off fairly quickly. I sat on top of him, kissing him and touching his upper body which I loved so much. He lay me down and kissed between my legs, over my tiny g-string. Then took it off and went down on me. He really put his face into it, which was hot, but a little overwhelming (I need more precision to get off). After a while, I returned the favour. I took off his shorts. I was honestly a little disappointed when I saw his erect dick for the first time. It wasn’t as big as the ones I’d had the last half a year, which definitely means I’ve been a very lucky girl. It wasn’t the smallest I’d seen, but it wasn’t really the type I like. The upside was that, because of the medium length, I had no problem taking it all the way down my throat. He got very enthusiastic and was pushing my head down, but and it was okay because we were both really into it. Licking his balls, sucking without using my hands, looking up to see his super horny facial expression…it was all nice and he said he liked that I was a wild one. Then we finally got a condom. He hung over me and dropped some spit right above my vagina, I thought his good aim was really impressive and it was hot. He rubbed his penis in it and then slipped into me. He fucked me missionary. The way it felt when he entered me was incredible, it made me moan loudly. After a while, he raised my legs and I put my feet on his chest, which looked very sexy and he could thrust hard and deep into me. Then he said my couch was too small and I invited him to go upstairs. It was for the best I guess, because my neighbours would have been able to see us getting nasty on the couch since my curtains are a bit see-through.

When we were in my bedroom, he threw me on to the bed and continued to fuck me, while sometimes pinching or biting my nipples, holding me a bit too firmly. I knew I was gonna have bruises the next day.

Then, I finally asked if I could get on top as well. This wasn’t the greatest success, the combination of wetness, me going too fast and his size made him slip out of me several times. I then turned around and rode him reversed cowgirl, while holding his ankles (it was actually an idea I got from a story on CasualSexProject.com!). That was much better. At one point he held my wrists so I could only move up and down on him. He then put me on my stomach, slipped into me, closed my legs and continued to do me like that. While I was thinking he could probably slip into my anus easily, he thought the same thing and asked for permission to do it. He got in, but honestly, it hurt too much so we had to stop.

He laid down on the bed to catch his breath. I wasn’t sure if he wanted to continue, so I said if he wanted to get back in we’d have to change condoms. He asked for a towel because he was dripping sweat. He told me I had to change the condom, so I did. All the while he was hard and he told me it was because I was so hot. We kissed a little, then he stood by the edge of the bed, pulled me toward him and told me to just lay down on my stomach. He pulled my hair almost too hard while sexing me up. At some point, he put me on my side. He put me in front of the mirror and looked me in the eye while fucking me doggy. Then we did missionary again, but with him completely pulling out of me and then pushing inside of me with a lot of power, which was super intense. He also fingered me while still inside of me.

Lastly, he put me on my chest again and laid on top of me, his body was literally slipping and sliding over mine because we were so sweaty. He was breathing on my neck and ear and held me tight while he came in me. It was a great moment.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close.

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We cuddled and talked for about an hour. He turned out to be a real sweetheart. The intention is to be FWB’s and that could really work because we have a lot more in common than I expected!

He told me he can stop by after going to the gym in the future, since I live so nearby.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To cheer myself up, Revenge / Getting even, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Just two former colleagues who know all about my sexual escapades and enjoy hearing about them. While I’m still in shock I got the guy I’d wanted for so long, they weren’t surprised at all because it sounded like all my other crazy hook-up stories.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Had great sex and it may become a regular thing!

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Penis size. Sorry…

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I have two other sex dates planned this week. I’m not mourning the rejection by my ex-lover anymore, it’s kind of a relief now.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? My mission is to end the taboo on casual sex. It can have so many advantages..

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? My favourite site to visit before or while I masturbate. Also, great mission.

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