What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? about a month
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? The story I’m about to tell is about my fuck buddy Alex, who I knew for roughly two months at that time. I got to know him because a guy I hooked up before kind of recommended him to me, and told me he could teach me some stuff. As I was pretty curious because I did not have had a lot of sexual experience before that, I started meeting Alex. I liked him from the very beginning, as he was so different than most guys I knew at that point. He was just doing what he liked to do and he didn’t care at all about other people’s opinions – what I thought was very inspiring. He’s four years older and a bit smaller than me, well-built, but not really in a toned way. He has long, curly black hair (oh I’m soooo into men’s long hair) and there’s always a smirk on his lips. As a guitarist in a rock band, he gets around a lot, so he really knows what he’s doing in bed. As the title of this story already tells, he’s shared his wisdom with me since our first time together.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We usually text each other a few days in advance to see when the other is free. As Alex often works at night, he usually proposes a day, and I check my planner to see whether it works out. (It usually does because in my life there’s always time for good sex.) So that time we met at my place and, as it is our ritual, cooked dinner together. (Alex prefers his cooking over mine because the kitchen is like his home and he really is talented with spices.)
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We sat side by side at my small table and I was not even finished eating as his hand wandered up my thigh. The second he touched my skin I was already as wet as I possibly could be. Gentleman that he is, he asked me to finish my plate first as he got onto the bed and turned on an anime on Netflix, which is kind of our thing during sex. I put my plate back in the kitchen and joined him on the bed. We sat next to each other for no more than half a minute as he put his hand on my knee. I already reached for his cock through his pants. I wore a skirt you have to kind of rip open, which seemed to be a good idea because it turned him on like crazy. He got me out of my slip and started fingering me, which he is so incredibly good at. He starting to slide two fingers inside me, even three as he felt that I was ready for it and I almost came. Then he pulled back, got his pants off, and put his dick inside me while bending my knees up to my breasts so he could go deeper and deeper. He started biting my neck probably as hard as he could, it hurt so so good! I then told him I wanted to ride him like the stallion he was. So I got on top doing Reverse Cowgirl, my favorite position, which made me come. I blew him to orgasm later, using the techniques he’d taught me so far.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterward, we got in the shower together and we both acknowledged how well our kind of “friendship” worked. By that point, we knew so well what the other was into, yet we were so independent and sex was nothing but fun for us. Alex stayed the night and we still met a few times after that. By now, we had some weeks of a break due to the holidays etc. and I have no idea whether we will continue afterward. I panicked a few weeks ago because I thought I got myself more emotionally involved than I wanted to, but seeing some other guys during our break helped me to ease my heartache. I would not want him to not be part of my life anymore.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) IUD (Intrauterine device)
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Some friends know about my special friendship with Alex. Some are encouraging me while others are afraid I’m letting myself go too much.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We know each other’s bodies so well by now that neither of us really has to think about anything during sex, we just do. Plus I love how he is always cooking for me!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? …that I guess this has to come (or has already come) to an end one day.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Without Alex, I’d know maybe one percent of the stuff I know about sex because of him. Sleeping with him let me lose all my fear I used to have toward hookups, and by now I’m way more confident about going down on somebody than I used to be.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex started playing a very important role in my life just since the last three months, and I don’t regret any of the experiences I’ve made in that time so far. Doing it myself, I really think that there is nothing wrong with it and I wished more people would try it out themselves so the judgment over people who engage in casual sex would decrease. Especially the slut-shaming amongst women has to stop, as bringing down ourselves slows down the impact of feminism.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it! I really enjoy reading about the inspiring adventures of others and now sharing my own story as well.
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