What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Grand Forks, North Dakota
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student/Paramedic
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
My Sex with a Doctor
How long ago did this hookup happen? Almost one year ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a rugged, fit, dirty blond, 5″9′ good looking guy who carried confidence but no arrogance in his stature. I didn’t know him too well. I was visiting my older sister in Los Angeles, California for part of the summer and we went to a party for a friend of hers. Through conversation I had found out that there was a guy at the party who was an emergency medical physician. I was interested in that since I run 911 calls as a paramedic, so we had an immediate mutual interest and I went to talk to him. All but three people at the party were gay, and I had been told that the doctor was gay. We talked for a short while before he asked for my number and said that we should grab coffee before I have to leave California. I was really interested in him and he gave me subtle hints that he was interested in me as well. I thought he was incredibly attractive with a solid head on his shoulders, and that is so sexy to me.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Once we swapped numbers, I texted him first the next day asking how his night was (he went out with a few of the friends from the party). He said it went well but then he started talking about how he was hoping that I would have swam at the party, as there was a pool there, and he wanted to see me shirtless, since my older sister had talked about how good looking I was compared to my brothers. From there, it increased in detail and sexual appeal and he eventually sent a picture of himself. It was a “conservative” shirtless picture, but nonetheless, it got me excited to see more. So, I would say that the doctor had instigated the beginning of the hookup. He started talking about how he wanted to see me naked and what he would want to do to me. I was new to hooking up so I was kind of scared, but I followed along. He asked to see a picture of my ass and dick and overall body, so I sent him a few pictures. He sent a few back that was his hand and dick covered in cum with the response “this is just what your pictures do to me, wait till I get the real thing”. It turned me on incredibly so, but I couldn’t see him until the next at the soonest. We had chatted about me going to his apartment around 3pm the next day because I had a workout scheduled at Barry’s Bootcamp in WeHo at 2pm. We planned on seeing each other the next after that. On that day, I ended up seeing him at Barry’s and he was working out during the same session that I was. Seeing him get all hot and sweaty was super sexy, but also super difficult to not have a hard-on throughout the entire workout. We connected after the workout and he said that we should grab a health shake and then go to his place and chat some more.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At his place, we sat on the couch and talked about how he came to be a doctor and his progression to Los Angeles. Mid-sentence, he lunged across the couch and started to kiss me. He was larger and more muscular than I was, so his heavy body easily pinned me to the couch. He slid his tongue into my mouth and found mine and teased the rest of my body with his hands. I felt his cock grow hard and he started to rub it against my leg and he whispered into my ear that we should take this to his bed. We moved to his room and he threw me down onto his bed and he ripped his shirt off and pressed his skin to mine as he had quickly took shirt off in the living room. His body was still quite moist with sweat and it was such a turn on. I threw my legs up and I grabbed his ass and I pulled him close into me, feeling the outline of his cock against me. He tore my shorts away and he undressed himself the rest of the way. He threw my legs up and started licking my ass vigorously and mentioned that doing that was one of the best parts of sex for him. In a sensual and beep voice asked for direct consent if he could fuck me as hard as wanted and I pleaded to do so. He grabbed a condom and lube and went as slowly as I needed to until we worked ourselves up. He fucked me missionary until I was ready to cum and then he flipped on his back so I could ride him cause he wanted me to cum on his chest. I did and he came shortly after on his stomach.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterwards, we showered together and talked about medicine some more and what the rest of the days’ plans were for both of us. We had talked about hooking up one more time before I left, which we did. I was hopeful to stay in connection with him, which we have. We are pretty good friends now and he is a good resource for me and vice versa. The next day, I felt intrigued since he was only the second, but oldest guy that I had sex with (he was 27 and I was 20). Now, him and I are good friends, but since we are across the country from each other, we haven’t seen each other since last summer.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Discussed STI testing history, PrEP
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I have told a few of my friends about the hookup. All of the people that I have talked to have told me that they think it’s super sexy and they are jealous about it.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The fact that we continued to be friends is the best part of this hookup.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The fact that him and I also connected on a more personal level that, should I live closer we would probably be dating.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? As far as myself, it taught me a few more things that I like to do in bed!
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It’s been my hottest hookup ever. The idea that I had sex with an emergency medical physician and the idea that I would like to be one myself, it’s super attractive.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think that casual sex is a great thing to experience as long as one does it safely and is mentally able to handle it. I don’t think that it is for everyone but for those of us who can create that “divide” between “having sex” and “making love”, I think it could be a good thing and can teach one a lot about themselves. I think that there should be a reduced stigma against hookup culture as I think that there is a lot of learning and self-growth that is experienced in these experiences.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s an incredible idea. I am late on hearing about it as I just watched the TED talk about it and the research that some of it has shown, but I am incredibly supportive of this project!
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