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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 52
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Austin, Texas
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Self-employed
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation:
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? First one

My Shared Wife

How long ago did this hookup happen? Started 20 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? At the time we were living in military housing in Germany. A couple in our stairwell invited us to a party… We didn’t really know anyone. There was a mixture of couples and single males.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? At one point everyone was standing close watching a game of twister. My wife leaned over and whispered in my ear that the guy behind her was turning her on.
I had been asking her for a year to hook up with another soldier so I was excited, and I told her to go for it.
She turned and asked him to escort her to our apartment to help bring down more beer.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? They made out and undressed on our couch. My wife was so horny, they quickly moved to the bedroom for oral and vaginal sex.
Anal came several months later.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Great, my wife and I loved it. She continued to see him for twenty years.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? My wife was able to separate love for her husband and sex with someone else. She became much more open and our marriage got stronger.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!