What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? China
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Pursuing Higher Education
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

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How long ago did this hookup happen? Two days ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I am living in China and had a Chinese girlfriend. Since the breakup with her I was purely single. I met another girl last year. She was more than fifteen years older than me. Though she had a nice body, the sex was not so steamy. Because of the age difference we decided to become just friends. I decided not to go into any serious relationship sooner.

Recently, I was looking for a friends with benefits type of relationship. I met Lilian on the most popular social media platform of China called wechat. She was tall and quite chubby. She was older than me as well as my past girlfriends. She had a sweet smile. Though she was not that hot, I wanted to fuck her because I get horny for chubby girls. She was quite funny and friendly. We had some connection. We started to flirt from the beginning.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Since the first time we started texting, I asked her to meet sometime sooner. I was planning on meeting her on the weekend, but Lilian said lets meet that day. The hookup was not planned because typical Chinese girls are not used to talking about sex openly. I also avoided any direct indication of a probable hookup. In China, we have a holiday for honoring dead relatives and friends. Two days ago in the afternoon I texted her and asked where was she and what she doing. She was coming back from a wedding and was quite tired. So she wanted to take a rest and meet me in the afternoon. Our place is quite close so we decided to meet in a nearby bar. Both us instigated it. We were drinking beer in the bar. During the chat she started to bump my foot under the table which I liked and got a clear green sign.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After few beers I asked her to move somewhere else because the music was too loud. We took a taxi and came back to my place. As we entered the room I opened my computer and played a movie. Just to break the ice and make her comfortable. We talked some more about our current relationship. I told her I was not looking for anything serious and she seemed to understand my thoughts. As we were talking she started to rub her thighs with my leg. I went for kiss and started to kiss quite passionately. We started to rub each other and my hands were all over her body. She was soft and her boobs were quite big. I started to squeeze her boobs. We made out for a while.

After that she asked me to give her time to take a shower. After the shower she came back naked from the shower which I liked a lot. She laid down on the bed and I took off my clothes. I started to suck her nipples a lot. I like sucking nipples and she told me it turns her on. Slowly I started to rub her pussy. Started to rub her clit as well. Her pussy was dripping wet. Then she asked me if I am willing to lick her pussy. I obliged and went down on her. I also love licking pussy. Though the smell was not so good but I was turned on so did not care. I have a shy dick so though I was turned on, my dick was not hard.

She tried giving me a blowjob but still I did not get hard. Then we kissed again for a while. She decided to stay the night because her dorm closes at 11. After some oral sex we stopped and started to chat. We talked about her first time and first love. Both us shared our past sexual experiences, likes and dislikes, relationship views and other trivial stuff. It was fun and she laughed a lot. After a while I started to play with her boobs and started to lick her nipples again. This time my dick got hard and I couldn’t wait to put my dick inside her pussy. It was awesome because she was so wet and I like a juicy pussy. I did not bother about the condom but after a while I did put on a condom. I started to thrust slowly and kept playing with boobs at the same time. Suddenly she started to vibrate and I was amazed because I have never seen a woman’s body vibrate like that. We fucked in missionary position for a while and then moved on to horse ride. I am not a very fond of horse riding so my dick got soft again. After half and hour We started to fuck again and tried several positions. This time I came. We were tired and went to sleep. Both of us did not have much sleep. In the morning I felt she was awake and wanted to go again. We had orgasms at the same time and enjoyed the sex to our deepest bone. I was happy because I did not disappoint her in the end.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? In the morning she prepared to go back and I called her a taxi, As soon as she left I went for breakfast and texted her that I was quite satisfied and had a nice time. She asked me that can we have sex once a week and I agreed. I don’t have any romantic feelings for her but want to become friends with benefits.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? with a guy friend and he appreciated.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex was great. The way it started and the way it ended. Also realizing true sex drive.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Maybe I talked few things quite directly though knowing it might hurt her feelings. She did not look hurt after the sex anyway.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? yes, I was not sure if I am suitable for casual sex or not. Maybe I will try again.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? wish I did not say few things that might give her the wrong impression.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think some people can do this quite casually without getting hurt. It gave me some lessons about sex and relationship. People getting more open about this.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think its awesome and can help lot of young people.

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