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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? England
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Polyamourous
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

My Straight Best Friend

How long ago did this hookup happen? A month

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? A friend from school who used to bully me for being gay when I was younger. As we aged I was his secret friend never open because it wasn’t cool for him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He had come over to hang out says he was aching from the gym I offered him a massage and he was lying on his front. I worked my hands around him then told him to turn over and found his cock was hard and sucked him off.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I sucked him off and I was very obsessed with him at the time so it felt positive. However looking back, I do not think I was treated equally. He was exploring his sexuality in secret and using me for it without being open about his intention. I was not open about how obsessed I was with him at the time.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, he cried and was very upset as he has to be straight for his family. This made me feel terrible and my hopes were to hook up again in the future often. But after this occasion, he booty called me once and I never see him anymore. He has a girlfriend and just lives near my house. I wish I was more open with what I wanted and less submissive. The hookup made me realize how bad power inequality and unopeness was.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more desirable

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? A little bit

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’ but didn’t give a ‘no’

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to my close friends I felt good and proud to get with the hottest guy in my school however I did not tell them the negative parts of it

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Finding myself and what I want from things

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The guilt and sadness I felt after

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes I now only try to get with guys who respect me for me

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? There is still something about this guy who makes me crazily obsessed, even though I feel I have grown emotionally. I know if he messaged I would go for sex.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I believe it provides lots of insight into how you want to be treated and your self-worth.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I’m using it as a form of therapy so positive overall

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