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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 5

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Filipino, wore suits, 10 year age difference. He met me at work and asked if I was interested in going to a happy hour together. I didn’t know him that well but found him charming. I wasn’t sure if it was a date given our age differences. I also thought it was perhaps him networking for professional reasons.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He definitely instigated it. He picked me up and drove me to the bar. I told him about my misadventures online dating and he mentioned potential eligible men he thought I might be interested in.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I had a drink at the bar but I’m not much of a drinker so I got tipsy pretty fast. As he was driving me home, he asked if there was a park or some place private to stop at to “talk.” I got the hint as to what he meant but thought we’d only make out. He parked near my house and we started to kiss. He used tongue almost immediately and also kissed my neck. When I started moaning, he reached his hand under my skirt and rubbed my clit. I was surprised at the escalation but I also liked it. He asked me a few times if I wanted to go to the back of his car. I said, “No, of course not” but as we kept kissing, it sounded more and more appealing. I asked if he had condoms which he had a whole bag of in his glove box. I was really wet before I finally crawled into the backseat and slipped my skirt and tights off. I never felt so slutty in my life. I got on all fours and he immediately thrust into me. He grabbed my breasts and fucked me pretty aggressively. He didn’t last very long but it felt so good to have a cock inside me (I hadn’t had sex in almost a year at that point).

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We hooked up a couple more times. He would send me messages like, “I need to use your body.” I felt kinda objectified but also desired and aroused. I felt both ashamed and pleased that it had happened. I did think that maybe we were dating now. I’m over it now but it’s a hot memory.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel more desirable, I was feeling lonely, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends were shocked

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? I don’t regret the sex part but I do regret that I thought we were dating.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex itself, feeling desired

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Emotions

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I learned that while casual sex is hot, I can’t do it as sex is a really emotional experience for me.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I would like to see less slut-shaming. It’s really clear that women are as sexually aroused as men are but there are so many more negative ramifications for women for acting on it.

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