What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Portland, OR
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Retail Associate
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? One
Nervous Tinder Hookup
How long ago did this hookup happen? 9 Months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a hippyesque girl. Strawberry blonde hair. Post summer tan skin with freckles. Small tits and a big ass. I was put at ease by her and liked talking music with her. I didn’t know her at all. We met on Tinder and talked about books for a little while. I asked her if there’s anything she wanted to ask me, and she goes “want to cuddle?” I said “yes” and she invited me over. I was pretty nervous going over there. In hindsight I should have called someone and said if you don’t here from me in two hours call the police.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I knocked on the door, she answered and we met for the first time in person. There was an akward convo with her roommates, she offered me water, and then took me to her room. We lay on the bed chatting for a bit, and then we cuddled. I started to feel her up and she was super receptive and we started kissing.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got naked and I entered her in the missionary position. This is the hookup that I realized I needed to stop watching porn. I learned that I was having an impossible time orgasming with women. I didn’t really realize it was a problem with my ex because I would just jerk off on her belly if I couldn’t cum. I didn’t want to do that with this woman. I fucked her with her legs up over her head for a while and then turned her around to fuck her from behind. We fucked for a pretty long time. I think she may have cum, either that or she just got bored. Hard to say. Anyway she kind of pulled away at one point because we’d been going for so long. I think she wanted me to put it in her ass, but I haven’t had anal before so I was hesitant. I kept fucking her from behind and then half ass faked an orgasm.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterwards we talked and she said I could stay over if I wanted but I declined. Left and realized I didn’t have her number but figured I could hit her up on tinder again. I felt okay about the encounter–if not disappointed I couldn’t orgasm. I wanted to have sex with her again but she never responded to any of my tinder messages.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few people. They were surprised at how smooth it went.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having sex with a girl I just met.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I didn’t cum and she didn’t want to get together again.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yeah a little bit.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Porn really messes people up. I hadn’t had sex in over 6 months and was completely unable to orgasm, even though the woman was hot. This was a result of compulsively masturbating to porn.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s coo.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s coo.
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