What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Ireland
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? Few months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was my age, extremely fit and muscular yet had a slim but broad build. Very good looking, the usual bad boy completion. I knew him through other people and had him as a friend on Facebook, I had seen him twice on nights out and talked to him, even kissed him but nothing more. We talked on and off briefly through social media but never anything serious as I knew too well he was a player. I was very attracted to his appearance only which was very different for me as I usually am attracted to appearance but their personality is key and usually what attracts me the most. I hadn’t had a proper conversation with him unless we were both intoxicated of some sort before it happened. He was a player and a party animal and I knew he was probably a dick head too.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He had messaged me on Facebook the usual ‘what’s up?’ and we talked for a few, I figured out quick enough what he was trying to get at as he mentioned his family was away and he had a free house, the first night I went over I was actually un aware he wanted to have sex and as I had my period I couldn’t but I didn’t want to either I was kind of let down that I figured out it was the only reason he wanted company. We awkwardly watched Netflix and I went home.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? A few days later I changed my mind and non directly asked if he wanted company, I think he might have known I was up for it this time so I went over really late, when he got off work. He was really bad for starting it so we lay in his bed and watched some crappy Netflix movie, he lay beside me for awhile then eventually turned in beside me to spoon me. I had my back arched so I could kind of tell it excited him and I could also feel his excitement. He then slowly started to move his hands around my waist and this went on for quite some time as he didn’t know how else to initiate the foreplay. It was very stimulating though having the feeling of built up sexual excitement. I then turned my head towards him and we started to kiss and french kiss. I moved under him and his big shoulders were towering over me whilst I felt his muscles, amazing feeling. He took his top off to my delight and we continued kissing. I then took my leggings off and panties and he started to feel me. He wasn’t fantastic on finding the main tool for arousual but he got it in the end. He then took his boxers off and we awkwardly decided on a position which was abnormal for me as usually my partner (whoever that may be) knows exactly what to do. I lay on my side and he entered behind me. It was amazing and intense and very heated. These are always the high points when it first happens. It felt so good he went for ages and ages and I climaxed more times then one. He held me from behind and I’m pretty sure I instructed him to pull my hair or choke me as I usually do when it gets heated. He was sweating more than I’ve ever seen someone sweat during sex and so was I, it never usually lasts long enough for me to be in such a sweat. I was screaming at this stage then he turned over and pulled out after ages of thrusting and sweating and screaming. We both panted in exhaustion after I was shaking with the intensity my legs were weak. Through it we weren’t in much contact but I preferred this because as much as I fancied him and would have jumped to a relationship with him I knew he didn’t want one so I didn’t want to get attached. Sadly I did after another two times of seeing him but that washed off soon enough after. Afterwards we had to shower as we were in pools of sweat, i have never had a shower with anyone not even an ex.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt bad next the next day like I always do, guilty or used. I had hoped he would get to know me more and like me but I knew deep down it wouldn’t happen because he was a player. I feel negative towards him now for other small reasons but I don’t regret the night.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was one of the most intense climaxes ever and was extremely hot and heavy and his body was amazing. And it lasted so long.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I got a small bit emotionally attached and felt worthless to him after wards.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No I still think if you are confident and accepting of your choices you should have casual hookups if you want but to be smart about it. (Safety, privacy etc)
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex plays a huge role in my life as it’s my biggest worry sometimes when I don’t feel so sure of myself. Now that I’m older and wiser I know now you have to be strong to have casual sex and you have to stick by your own thoughts about despite what your friends or society thinks. It’s all a personal preference, I don’t do it now to feel better about myself I do it cause I want to and have a very high sex drive which I’ve acknowledged and have to just deal with but I won’t let society stop me from what I feel is okay . I hope in the future it will be EQUAL for girls to have just as many hook ups as guys as this is the biggest problem!
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I’m so happy I found it as I find all these stories interesting and glad I’m not the only one.
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