What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 60
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? San Diego
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Scientist
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? I don’t know. Lost count.
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 7 years ago.

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I don’t remember what most of them looked like. We used to have weekly gang bangs every Wednesday at a club in SD. I never knew who was showing up until I arrived. There could be 4 to 12 men. One to two women, usually just me. I only asked that they be screened before being allowed to come.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It all started with an outgoing friend of mine. She was willing to go to swinger parties with me, which later turned towards clubs. Then the club owner invited me to the gang bang. That’s when I was hooked.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Usually one of the guys would lead me to the group play area. And we would start with kissing and oral play. I usually try to involve 2 or 3 guys to start. One that I work on and one that works on me, then we switch off. I have to admit, I’m not very good at handling a cock in each hand with one or two up my cunt and/or ass. I’m just not that coordinated. Most guys are good at simply fucking, but very few are good at handling lovers. They are just too anxious. Most of them were very respectful and considerate. They asked about my job (I did not get paid for sex), family, where I grew up, how long I’d lived in the area, etc.
It ended when my current boyfriend of 7 years, coincidentally, asked me to slow down and at least stop the gang bangs without him present. I thought that was rather sweet. So now I only swing with him as a partner.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I couldn’t wait to do it again, and again. I didn’t have any expectations with these people except for them to fuck me and cum. That’s what I was there for, for them to cum in or on. I’m grateful that we were able to mutually benefit from the encounters.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? We had a small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Club owner. Loved it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Sexual delight.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Difficult to find a quality club.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I can’t say compulsive sex is good for everyone.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex doesn’t mean you can wear your jeans and t-shirt to meet a hookup. Clean up your act, cut your hair and lose your belly fat. Then don’t question why you don’t have any casual sex.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? As long as you play responsibly…

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