Race/ethnicity: White British
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Work for an arts charity
Relationship status: In a relationship
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Mostly gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
New Years Disaster
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years ago
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One night stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had only just met this lad, he was younger than me, had a pretty big nose and an ego to match. He was pretty alternative, nice beard, some piercings if i remember and very complimentary. He wasn’t my first choice at this party, I’d actually gone because I was interested in the boy throwing it, of course that’s another story entirely.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? In a drug fueled, alcohol infested dubstep party (dubstep was still cool then). I thought he was a bit of a twat, I had no emotional connection, just physical really. There was no planning and he definitely instigated. I’d been texting and chatting with another lad, the guy who’s house it was in for months prior to this night, I put on my best dress, make-up immaculate and ready for adventure. Once I arrived the party divided, half were eager to catch the Thames fireworks, I was eager to stay where i was and continue drinking my rum. The boy I’d came for went to the fireworks, that was it, he’d be gone for hours, I saw my chance slip away. Until this guy swooped in and kept me company, a good thing to because I literally knew no one there.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It began with a kiss in the garden, then a kiss on the stairs, then a kiss on the couch, then eventually a kiss on the bed of the guy I actually liked whilst he was in the room (so awkward, but i was really drunk). We moved into another housemates room (a housemate who was away for the weekend) and without even asking permission, locked it and went at it. i can’t remember too much about this part, other than the fact he loved my tattoos. The worst part of all of this, was waking up, in a house, with the party still going on, the boy i secretly fancied still wide awake and my mum calling me asking when I’m home for dinner. Couldn’t find my pants and there was such a massive hole in my tights that everything was bared. The door knob had also fallen off of the door so i couldn’t get out. I had to peace it back together (without waking him) crouched down on the floor and slip out like a poof of air. Me and neither of the men involved ever spoke again, far too awkward.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Condom, well several I think, no we didn’t.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I wanted to enjoy myself, and with serious anxiety issues, i sometimes need sex to feel validated.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Yes, quite a lot of rum.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? my hopes were to get as far away as possible, I walked my shame all the way home and sat in the bath for 2 hours. i didn’t want to see him again.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was what I wanted, i was single at the time.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Yes, it was really a mess of a potential relationship. But things happen so for a reason, the me in that moment thought it was a great idea, i wish i could have a chat with her.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
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