What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 47
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What country and/or city do you live in? NZ
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Co Director
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? A lot

New Year’s Eve with Mr. Average

How long ago did this hookup happen? one month ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was a man in his early 40s, around 5 years younger than me. He is pretty much completely average – average height, average body, brown slightly receding hair, nice open face, a kind of normal nice guy. I met him online almost a year ago, when I was looking for a replacement FB. We chatted online a little bit, but not much. We arranged to meet for a coffee to size each other up. We had a nice coffee and chat and I liked him. He is looking for the same as me, casual fun. We agreed to meet again and made a date to do that. However the day before we were due to meet he got offered a great short-term job and had to leave immediately. For the sake of discretion I won’t say what he does for a job but this is pretty standard in his line of work and is why he isn’t looking for a relationship. So we didn’t meet. We talked a bit online but I worked out that he’s not really one for extended online chatting. He was now working overseas, and I didn’t hear from him for months and kind of forgot about him. Then he sent a message to say he was coming home and did I still want to meet up – I said yes, then the same thing happened. He got home, was here for 3 days then was gone again before we met. Again, I forgot all about him.

A couple of days before NYE he sent me a message to say he was back in town and I said I’d let him know when I could catch up. On New Year’s Eve I was out but didn’t really have any substantial plans. I didn’t have my kids but most my friends still did and I was at a kind of family party. I knew he wasn’t doing anything so decided that could be a fun way to spend the rest of my NYE evening. I sent him a message and asked if he’d like me to come over and he said yes. He lived kind of far away so I got in a cab and headed over.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He has a lovely house which he doesn’t get to spend much time in, so I had the tour then we sat down in his lounge to have a glass of wine. It quite quickly led to flirting and he said he’d give me 30 minutes then he was getting me naked. We chatted about general stuff and his work which is interesting. He was easy company, we were laughing a lot and he also complimented my dress and said I looked beautiful.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After pretty much exactly 30 minutes, he put his drink down and started to kiss me and he was a good kisser (phew), which to me often makes all the difference. We kissed for ages and ages and he undressed me while we were kissing. As soon as he had my knickers off he lay me on my back on his leather couch and got between my legs to eat my pussy. He was GREAT at it, enthusiastic and dedicated and he did it for ages and ages, making me cum a couple of times.

After that I got his cock out and sucked it which he seemed to like. His cock was…… average! in length, girth and appearance. I sucked it, licked it, did a few different things with my tongue and he seemed to be enjoying that. Then he went back to eating me again! I was enjoying all the pussy eating, it felt fantastic.

It was a good thing he was so good at that, because after that he turned me over so I was on my knees on the floor, resting on the couch, and entered me from behind. He was big enough to feel great and I came again and squirted. After that he withdrew and with no discussion, warning or preparation at all, he thrust right into my arse. I was quite surprised! And not really ready for it, with no preparatory play or lube. We had at some point in our discussions long, long ago touched on anal and I’d said that I do that. But in my view anal is an extra that needs to be discussed at the time – some days it’s not going to work for whatever reason or you just might not feel like it. Him doing that with no warning kind of annoyed me but I got the feeling that he didn’t have a great deal of experience with anal. He was clearly super into it and finding it really exciting, plus it started feeling good for me so I continued with it but decided I’d tell him gently after that he needs to take his time with anal. Anyway, it started to feel real good and I had another orgasm and he came too and he was pretty much so overwhelmed I wondered if that was his first time. We were both sweaty and wet and wiped out and we had a little cuddle, then he got me another drink and we started talking about music and found we had almost identical taste in music. We ended up sitting on two chairs in front of his computer both stark naked, taking turns to select songs to play that we loved and talking about them. He pulled my legs up over his lap and stroked them while we did this and eventually his cock got hard again so he grabbed my hand and led me back to his couch where he ate me AGAIN – more orgasms – then I pushed him on his back and rode him, which was really fun and really nice and we kissed while we fucked. Then he turned me around to fuck me doggystyle again, and then he withdrew and I thought, “Aha, he’s going for the arse again,” so I said no thanks.  He asked why so I explained to him that I was a bit sore from him just going for it last time and told him it needs to be taken a bit more slowly and with a bit more care. He was a little embarrassed but took that really really well, so I decided to show him what I meant and we did anal again – this time a lot more slowly and it was pretty great. But after I while I said I’d had enough of that now; he flipped me over and we fucked missionary and kissed until he pulled out and came all over my stomach.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He invited me to stay over but I couldn’t as I had responsibilities and needed to be at home. I was a bit sorry, I would’ve quite liked to have stayed.

The next day we sent each other a few messages and he said I’d worn him out and he was resting all day. We agreed we’d like to meet again before he left town to return to work but surprise surprise before we could arrange a day he had to go again. I would quite like to see him again so will wait to see if he gets back in touch when he’s next home.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a few friends that it had happened. Pretty much no details.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The good company, the bonding over music and the GREAT oral.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The surprise sudden anal.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? NO

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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