by Soya

Gender: Female
Age: 21
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: UK
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Night Out

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was a 30 year old teacher visiting his friends. I obviously did not know him at all and had no previous relationships what so ever. We met in a bar and just started talking.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was going back home to my flat with a few friends and invited him to join. It was a spontaneous decision.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Sex was ‘usual,’ just vaginal. I felt OK but did not have an orgasm, my partner did. In the morning he was very polite and wanted me to go on a date with him but I called a taxi instead. He knew I do not want anything else.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom. No discussions about STI took place.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Too many drinks and feeling to be adventurous.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I can not remember exactly but I had at least 6 cocktails.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He texted me after even though I told him I do not want to be involved. Now, when telling this story I have no feelings about it and don’t even remember his name.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Three friends that stayed in my flat that night. They were OK with this.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was my choice and I do not regret it.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all! It was simple and fun.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No complications was the best thing. The worst thing was the guy who hoped for progress in our non existing relationship. This hookup made me realise that I should choose guys when I am sober. Even though he was nice, he was not my type and I did not feel any physical attraction to him after the intercourse.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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