Current location: New Zealand
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Company director
Relationship status: Divorced
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 39
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? Fair number
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 week
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One night stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Met him online. 10 years younger than me. Average height. Very nice muscly gym body with cool tats. Brown hair, blue eyes, receding hairline.
I’m a divorcee. I went back online to look for hookups as my favourite fuckbuddy (found online about 6 months ago) is moving overseas 🙁 (however after I found out he was moving overseas I also then found out he lied about being divorced no kids, and was in fact married 2 kids, but that’s another story).
So I went back online as obviously I need to move on. Chatted to this guy. We agreed to meet up for a drink on a Saturday when I had no kids. He seemed like a fun, OK guy so thought I would just check him out and see how that went.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? On Friday night we were chatting online and he was telling me he was out and so horny, he said can I come around tonight and eat your pussy. I reminded him I still had the kids, that’s why we were meeting up the next day. he said could I sneak him in and he would only eat my pussy, he was not going to fuck me, he promised.
Our chatting had made me horny too and this seemed like a good offer. I thought I would like that. So I said OK, but he had to come post 11.00 pm to make sure the kids were asleep.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? So he arrived actually around 11.30 and by then I was quite tired. He was shorter than I expected, I think he wasn’t entirely truthful in the height field in his online profile. But he was nice enough and initially we just lay on my bed together chatting for ages. He asked me heaps of questions and it seemed to move beyond chat into almost interrogation. It was a bit much.
Then we started kissing and touching, and that part was quite nice. As promised, he pulled my PJ pants off and settled down to eat me. He did a very nice job of that and he made me cum. I went to get his cock out to return the favour but he said no. He said he wasn’t going to fuck me tonight as he wanted a second date. We then kissed a whole lot more and I kind of rode him, i.e. I had no pants on but he still did so it was just rubbing against each other. For quite a while. In various positions. Plus kissing. For a while he was kind of rubbing his clothed, hard cock against my butt while I lay on my stomach.
I started to wonder why he was so fixed on the idea of not fucking me. I wondered if he had a very small cock and didn’t want to bring it out too soon.
Eventually I managed to extract his cock from his pants and it was average size, and I sucked it, licked it etc for a while. He kept his pants mainly on though and he stopped me before he came.
After that we lay there for a bit and then he said: What are you thinking? I didn’t like that.
Then I cracked a joke and he didn’t laugh at all. So I tried a few more jokey things. Still no laugh, not even a smile and I started to think, Oh no, he is WAY too serious. Then he suggested we go on holiday together and for me this was the nail in the coffin.
After that he wanted to kiss some more, then started saying: if you really want me to, I will fuck you.
I said, NO, it’s fine, you came here sure you didn’t want to, so let’s not. In fact, you’d better go to make sure we don’t and I’m going to put my pants on now.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I did, early on before he freaked me out a bit. He didn’t.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? No intercourse took place. We had oral sex unprotected.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was trialling a new potential fuckbuddy.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? none at all on my part. It turned out he had had some marijuana before coming over.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I ended up making excuses and not meeting him the next day after all. He seemed like he was way too serious and possibly a bit intense. His response proved I was right about that. He was trying to act really casual like it didn’t matter, but then would blurt out a message that was quite angry. This went on over a couple of days. He is still sending the odd message but I told him straight up that I wasn’t feeling it and didn’t want to take it any further.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Absolutely no-one.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? a little bit yes. It would perhaps have been better if I’d gone with the original plan and met him for a drink first. Hopefully I would’ve picked up his intensity and shut it down before anything happened. it’s not inconceivable thought that I wouldn’t have, and might’ve ended up fucking him, so at least this way we didn’t fuck and I got the same result.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I got a nice orgasm from oral.
Worst was realising that I thought this guy was a bit intense and hoping he wouldn’t give me any trouble when I told him I didn’t want to pursue it. Think it’s all good though.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
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