by Lauren

Gender: Female
Age: 23
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: Arizona, USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Translation
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Not Our Night

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 days ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Fuck buddies

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We slept together once a year ago and occasionally had contact. Gearing up for a trip soon, I was eager to get some action and asked if he was free. We once had the hottest sex and since I hadn’t been laid in a couple months, I was relatively eager and tired of doing it alone. We were able to get started but for some reason my IUD bothered him too much this time (I’ve had it over a year which includes of course the last time we slept together) so he tried putting my legs up by his ears. I’m flexible so that didn’t hurt but I could feel his penis hitting against the IUD which made my uterus hurt. I’d been told by guys before they would feel it but I’d never had a problem with sex. No matter what position we got into it either bothered him or me and we both stopped claiming it was an off night.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Neither of us had an orgasm.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I have an IUD and in our casual text exchanges we’d discussed when we’d been checked. I’d been in the gyno’s office almost every month with one thing or other and had recently been checked and told I was clear.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was honestly just horny and wanted an ego boost before my trip. Worked out quite the contrary.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? None.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We both exchanged apologies although I felt most of the embarrassment having been adamant about wanting to see him and it was basically MY fault, my IUD getting in our way. I was grateful though that at the time, he didn’t make it feel like it was all on me and we hope to create better material for the spank bank.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told an old girlfriend who simply said these sex mishaps happen all the time and she’d heard worse.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? The would-be sex would have been consensual but it really never concluded.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? It couldn’t have been predicted so I don’t regret it but in detailing it to my girlfriend immediately after I recall saying “I would have been better off staying home and masturbating.”

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best: he shared the embarrassment. Worst: we didn’t/couldn’t hook up. I would still consider casual sex and I DEFINITELY want to rectify the situation with this guy and give us both much better images for the spank bank.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative

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