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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 43
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Financial Services
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 38
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Not so much

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last night

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This was a Tinder date that began late at night at my house. It went pretty much as expected.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? This was a mutually understood thing. We’d been texting throughout the day.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Standard stuff. She came twice via manual stimulation of her clit and g spot. We then had (safe) vaginal sex, and I came once.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I don’t feel great about it and wish it hadn’t happened. In future I’d like to be more selective.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Sterilization

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Another partner with whom I have a casual open relationship. She cautioned against it but ultimately left the decision to me.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? I feel like I’ve been doing too much of this lately, since my divorce a year ago. While I know I’m not ready for exclusivity, I would like to engage in encounters with people I’m going to see in future.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was easy, convenient and quick.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It doesn’t make me feel good about myself.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? In general, it’s been good for me. I grew up in a religious environment (read: sexually repressed) and went to a religious university. In a way, today’s technology has helped me make up for my lost youth. While this specific experience wasn’t all that positive, most of my others have been.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Kudos to you for doing this. It’s important that we talk about it.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!